Hi Guys i want to say how really i appreciate your comments and feed back on my last post. It seems i have some issues in my current relationship that i need to solve.
I want to ask you one more question.
I have 2 boys from my last relationship not living with me but living with their mum, and i have my filipina gf and we have been talking about buying a new home in Manila. My gf currently lives in her sisters house with her 8 year old son in the same bed. Now we have had the relationship for 2 years and i went to Manila and lived with her and gave her everything and we bought a house together as well. The problem was the gf s boy took all her energy and time and emotion and it was hard on me because i wanted the relationship with her not with two people. My gf at times would go back to the sisters place down the road when we have an argument, and would lock the door on me preventing me from coming into the house when we are fighting, thats our own house of course, and would sleep with her boy in the spare room and talk to him about me in tagalog and leave me sleeping on my own in our room. We sold the house when i went back to Australia and i have been supporting her and her son since.
Our relationship has survived to this point where she wants to get a home for us near where her family lives. Her family dont like me, because i dont have enough money like her past bf where he paid more than i ever did.
I have said to her yes i would love to do that and would pay the deposit. But on one condition. That we have the house to live together only. And her boy be looked after by her family down the road in the subdivision . He has tv and nice bed in this room there and her sister live there too. I said that he can come and visit us and he can stay a night or two but that our relationship must improve and create the space for us. I didnt want complications and issues and arguements and her leaving the house with him to go back to her sisters place and i had to come along and rescue the relationship again. Her boy is undisciplined and noisy and brings others into the house like what happened last time. I dont want that to happen again.
I need your help on what i should do. If there are others here that have been through similar cirumstances then i would love to hear from you. This is my true circumstances and hope you can help me with the right answers . Am i right to ask this that we live together only.?
