just a thought here,you are in england or still in the phils, you are married, whats the most important thing in your life, to have a child or to be happy, yes you can have both, but what happens if you dont want both, would you feel pressured to have a child or feel safer having a child, would just being married and not planning to have any children be considered a good marrige,everyone is differant in the own views, just wondering what do others think
Well for me it is to be happy.
A baby would, I know, make my wife ecstatic with happiness, but at 41 I am worried about her health. As much as I want a child with her, I don't want to risk her in any way. So for me health and happiness first and if a baby arrives with no complications, wow, what a bonus.
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really want to have a child but thinking about getting preggy for 9 months and give birth scares me to death.im 32 but im not yet ready to be a mother and told my hubby about this....my family pressures me a lot coz they want to have a Fil-Brit relative but will wait and see....as of now we're both happy and contented with our marriage life
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart
My ex wife had our son at the age of 39. No problems.Originally Posted by LastViking
Your wife would be medically supervised throughout her pregnancy (particularly in the UK), so I don't think you need be too concerned these days. My sister had a beautiful healthy baby when she was 41...and my grandma had a healthy one when she was 49.
happiness... though we don't have baby yet, we could feel it if we're together but the most fulfilling part of marriage is not the end of being together, we want to experience to become a parents.
well we both have kids from our previous marriages so a baby is not a priority .we both want to be happy in our relationship which is very important but if baby comes along then that would be a bonus in our minds but the clock is ticking in our case may already have stopped she,s 40 .
Our baby came along and sealed our happiness. We have the best of both.
If you want your dreams to come true ...... first you have to wake up
Although not married yet; we have decided to wait about 1 yr and then try for 1 -2 children .. she wants children and i love children, I have done all I ever want to in life now ready to give time to kids.. I will 52 prob by time they come along, but I am blest with health & fitness and of cousre a young energetic wife to be
"Nothing ventured, nothing gained"
"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" Lord Tenneson.
Well!!!!
That's all a decision between the couple really. Some need them to seal their life and other don't want them.
i agree with one of our fellow forum friend here that it totally depends on the decision of the couple or the situation
in our case, my husband want to have a baby soon (who doesn't?) BUT I AM NOT ready yet because first we are not financially stable for now and he still got two responsibilities from his previous marriage ( his ex-wife is a pain sometimes, well most of the time
keeps on demanding things from him
) this situation just stress me out .good thing he understands. i just need to cope really
i agree with one of out fellow forum friend here that it totally depends on the decision of the couple or the situation
in our case, my husband want to have a baby soon (who doesn't?
Is it possible that your hubby feels he is running out of time?
in life we have to take any risk we wont ever know the pain if we dont riskreally want to have a child but thinking about getting preggy for 9 months and give birth scares me to death.on my opinion at your age 32 thats quit young but its not but still you are capable to make a baby
in other word no pain no gain and to gain you must have pain
A place for everything, everything in its place.
If only more people used your good sense before having children.i agree with one of out fellow forum friend here that it totally depends on the decision of the couple or the situation
in our case, my husband want to have a baby soon (who doesn't?
I take my hat off to you.
I take it you gotta house full of dogs
Actually Steve didn't say he needed a baby to seal his relationship
Believe it or not, most do get married to have children in turn sealing there marriage..children do that...all God's plan
If ya gonna wait for financially security, you could be waiting forever.
Dont blame husband for his situation (kids from previous marriage etc).you knew it before you married him.
Good luck to all
Men dont have that problemIts the chicks who has that small window of opportunity.
Do they not? If you say so.Men dont have that problem
FACT...womens abilities to produce fall off a cliff past 35 yo FACT
I do say so
Fact. You have such limitations in your thinking.
Surely its either or, or even neither or both, or maybe even all ! ! But if you love someone enough to marry them then you have to remember that there are two opinions to consider and you have to remember that the second opinion is more important than your own....if you really love them that is
''Don't be serious..Be Sincere''
Where on earth did that come from
I was just pointing out that its well known that women find it a darn sight harder to fall pregnant 35 yo and over.
A healthy male can produce baby bearing sperm of infinite proportions until the ghost gives up on him.
I'll endeavour to incorporate more thinking before i post in future
Thanks Mark, I know you understood how I said itI take it you gotta house full of dogs
Actually Steve didn't say he needed a baby to seal his relationship
If you want your dreams to come true ...... first you have to wake up
Hmm ... if a couple are happily married and NEITHER partner is fussy to have kids, then ...... fine! BUT, if ONE of the partners is really keen to have a child and the other isn't ... especially if the woman is still of childbearing age and finds herself getting "broody" and wanting to start a family
... well it COULD eventually (though not necessarily) lead to problems within the relationship sooner or later.
i've been a risk taker all my life Moy but like i said it scares me to death to give birth....i know there are other method aside from the natural birth but for now it's not our priority and im glad hubby understands me....we are not using any contraceptives and we are not closing our doors...when times comes that we will be bless with kids we will both be happy.in life we have to take any risk we wont ever know the pain if we dont risk
There is an understandable scenario where although the young Filipina wife wants to wait a bit, the elder hubby who is getting on a bit, may want to go for it sooner rather than later as he may be getting the feeling that he may not live long enough to see the newborn grow up, if they leave it for too long.
I was having a look at the bathroom area in our local maternity hospital birthpool room for administering water births. It looked fantastic. The whole facility was marvelous. I was so surprised. Dare I say it, complete with ipod docking station and dimmerswitch lighting.i've been a risk taker all my life Moy but like i said the it scares me to death to give birth....i know there are other method aside from the natural birth but for now it's not our priority and im glad hubby understands me....we are not using any contraceptives and we are not closing our doors...when times comes that we will be bless with kids we will both be happy.
IMO
I am inclined to agree.IMO
... yes ... I can relate to what you're saying ... in so far as my daughter-in-law - who, at 31, is a year younger than you are now - adores kids, but is content with being an aunt to her several nephews & nieces since, like you, she's extremely apprehensive about the birthing process. And my son has already made it plain he's happy enough to respect her reservations.
So no more grandchildren for me!
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