Hello softmallowgum
You were so very unlucky to had met such a man
The fact that you traveled here to the UK to meet him, was brave and showed your genuine commitment.

For him then to more or less ignore you and use such feeble excuses shows you he is not worthy of your friendship let alone progress to a relationship.

I married a Filipina in 2008 who used me for money, a visa and for me to bring her here to the UK, plus she was unfaithful after our wedding which resulted in a child that was not mine.

If I had had the fortune to had met a girl more like you my life would be much happier now.

Take care, you will find a more worthy man.
Mick.