Introducing again

[shinx]

Hi I have just had an awful break up with my fiancee in Philippines and hoping to make a friend here in the UK now.

[Rhose]

first of all welcome, to the forum shinx! hope you can find more friend here..

[shinx]

thank you so much i had such a terrible time this last few weeks.

[Dedworth]

Good luck on your quest Shinx

[stevewool]

hi, its been a long time since you posted, aint there any chance of getting back together

[shinx]

i am trying but right now she will not talk, i have sent flowers for tomorrow, written all the right words. up to her, but i am allowing her all time she wants, still giving love and care

[stevewool]

thats all we can do is just to let them know we are still here, but on the other hand you cannot wait forever

[shinx]

yes thats why for my own sanity i am trying to find a friend and be honest at same time

[stevewool]

the best policy is always to be honest with yourself and with those you are talking too, sometimes its hard to face the truth and to be told the truth too, but its the only way

[irishman12]

hi ,i have a friend that is in similar situation to you-not looking good for him

[stevewool]

hi ,i have a friend that is in similar situation to you-not looking good for him

bloody hell irishman tell it how it is, we are here to wish him goodluck

[irishman12]

bloody hell irishman tell it how it is, we are here to wish him goodluck

sure i can wish him goodluck but to me looks like too late if your girlfriend has baby with someone else ,like my friend is arriving in manila next week and his gf has decided to go abroad to work just before he arrives -only letting him know a week before -what you suggest -he follow her to that country

[Rosie1958]

Sorry to hear about your upsetting time Shinx, I do hope that you can work things out. Good luck

[shinx]

I was always serious and sincere yes and know its the only way in long distance relationships. thanks to all for your good wishes very appreciated. the problem was regarding an unfaithfulness that was such a shock.

[sars_notd_virus]

I was always serious and sincere yes and know its the only way in long distance relationships. thanks to all for your good wishes very appreciated. the problem was regarding an unfaithfulness that was such a shock.

sorry to read about your bad news ...but are you ready for another jump??? moving on doesnt mean to find another one or a rebound ..it takes time.

[shinx]

i am just looking a friend, nothing more and I havnt given up and nothing to with rebound just trying to keep sane, my emotions rollercoaster.

[sars_notd_virus]

Sorry if ive offended you...just giving a heads up!! weve all been there at some point in time...letting go doesnt need to have someone with you...(if you know what i mean???)
...if you desperately need ''just'' a friend , we can all be here for you!!

[shinx]

you didnt just wanted to clarify. tough times.

[sars_notd_virus]

yeah i know...sometimes you just need to shout it out!!

... a lot of members here update on where they going how things were or how $hit happens....and a lot of feedback helps...so when things turn out sour or sweet just update us...you are not alone.

[marksroomspain]

I just want to wish the guy good luck he must be devastated by this

[sars_notd_virus]

I just want to wish the guy good luck he must be devastated by this

you must have not been in the same situation??

[marksroomspain]

I feel what he feels sars_notd_virus I do know I just hope he can sort things out hope everything is ok shinx take care.

[stevewool]

being so far from each other can be a problem, one of the biggest problems is comunication and then trust have to have both to make a go of things

[shinx]

' being so far from each other can be a problem, one of the biggest problems is comunication and then trust have to have both to make a go of things' - Like.

[marksroomspain]

I know myself like many others have done here how hard it is to be away from somebody you love also the trust involved is very hard are you saying the child is not yours shinx and anything else you wish to get of your chest I am sure that there is many people on here who are willing to listen and be a friend right now at this terrible time...

[marksroomspain]

Are you married?

[shinx]

we were engaged in January, and recently discussing my return and we had agreed the wedding date as Feb 18. An 'positive' day as they call it there. her sister has mental problems from a road accident and i always told her i accept her too as a responsibility. she was due to travel to Cebu this last week school vacation time to get fabric for the wedding gown. this morning i visited the gp and started taking Diazepam for anxiety relief to help me through the day and stop waking in the night to check messages that are not there. when you are used to messages when you wake always there for you and look forward to chats later in the day its so hard now.

[sars_notd_virus]

i am trying but right now she will not talk, i have sent flowers for tomorrow, written all the right words. up to her, but i am allowing her all time she wants, still giving love and care

the problem was regarding an unfaithfulness that was such a shock.

she will not reply for one week and she knows today is my birthday. I found out myself accidentally through a secret facebook page she has she gave birth end of September (when I know ostensibly visiting relatives out of cell area) and for 2 weeks after chatting me as if nothing happened. found also a cheek to cheek picture with the father at an event I remember I payed for her to go to and a new dress. That was so awful to see. I have written forgiving her if only she will talk. sorry to post this yes I am devastated. the facebook page was deleted after I sent a friend request and her bf blocked me from his. I was supporting her and her family all this time with never any reason to doubt and daily contact kept me confident with that. dont want to believe I have been used but her silence is deafening.

we were engaged in January, and recently discussing my return and we had agreed the wedding date as Feb 18. An 'positive' day as they call it there. her sister has mental problems from a road accident and i always told her i accept her too as a responsibility. she was due to travel to Cebu this last week school vacation time to get fabric for the wedding gown. this morning i visited the gp and started taking Diazepam for anxiety relief to help me through the day and stop waking in the night to check messages that are not there. when you are used to messages when you wake always there for you and look forward to chats later in the day its so hard now.

I know its hard but worry about yourself shinx looks like your gf scammed you ...cut your losses mate and try to move on a little bit!!
and
Happy Birthday from all of us here!!

[shinx]

she will not reply for one week and she knows today is my birthday. I found out myself accidentally through a secret facebook page she has she gave birth end of September (when I know ostensibly visiting relatives out of cell area) and for 2 weeks after chatting me as if nothing happened. found also a cheek to cheek picture with the father at an event I remember I payed for her to go to and a new dress. That was so awful to see. I have written forgiving her if only she will talk. sorry to post this yes I am devastated. the facebook page was deleted after I sent a friend request and her bf blocked me from his. I was supporting her and her family all this time with never any reason to doubt and daily contact kept me confident with that. dont want to believe I have been used but her silence is deafening.

[raynaputi]

she will not reply for one week and she knows today is my birthday. I found out myself accidentally through a secret facebook page she has she gave birth end of September (when I know ostensibly visiting relatives out of cell area) and for 2 weeks after chatting me as if nothing happened. found also a cheek to cheek picture with the father at an event I remember I payed for her to go to and a new dress. That was so awful to see. I have written forgiving her if only she will talk. sorry to post this yes I am devastated. the facebook page was deleted after I sent a friend request and her bf blocked me from his. I was supporting her and her family all this time with never any reason to doubt and daily contact kept me confident with that. dont want to believe I have been used but her silence is deafening.

I know it will be hard shinx, but she obviously cheated and scammed you. We have a trusted member here, named mick, who had that same situation..well the difference is he married the scammer and then when he got back to UK, his wife went back to her bf and had a baby off him..then after giving birth she went to UK and obviously just used mick (of course without him knowing everything until someone informed him)..consider yourself lucky in escaping the situation quite easy.