wife when unhappy going home

[bhem_bhem]

Hiya all I love here in Cebu,
Did some advice my wife has picked and gone back home with are daughter.Says she needs to earn her own money and prove to herself she can do things herself.

We have been married for two years and she says maybe thing happened too quick baby marriage.

Any one else has the experience of wife not earning her own money being a problem?

Any advice what can do?
Thanks

hello,, i myself nearly left my husband (these was before we got married). i met him 2 months before my visa expires (i was living here in uk as a student) so i never really had the chance to get to know him. i thought to myself as long as we love each other we can overcome any trials we're going to face.

i got my fiance visa and everything was good, then one day we argue over money. he is a tight bugger.. he's earning quite good money but we're living as if we are very poor. he moans on everything when it comes to money,, you can hear him all the time saying 'that's expensive'.

i started to feel unhappy and missing my old life where i am in control of everything. i begin to imagine my life would be different if i'm working in canada (been offered a job in there), i get control of my money, i can help my parents and i can do whatever i want.

we argued again so i said we really need to talk about it. i told him what i feel and he said he understand where i'm coming from. he did compromise coz he doesn't want to lose me. he still do it sometimes but i just roll my eyes now and just laugh it off coz i know that he's like that and he will never change.

with your wife, if there's no other reason behind her leaving you except she wants to work or earn money then i guess the best way is to talk about it. give her the time and affection that she wants. make sure she feels loved. sad to say, pleasing us girls involves money but im pretty sure she's worth it.

[joebloggs]

then one day we argue over money.

i've been arguing most days over money for more than 10yrs,

funny when it was just me working, if she wanted anything , 'it's only money' now she earns alot more than me, its her money

only Tagalog word a Brit needs to know is PERA

[bhem_bhem]

haha.. well joebloggs,, u know by now that wives are always right.. and that you can't complain.. he doesn't argue with me anymore coz he gets the hint now that when my eyes are wide open i want him to shut up and just give the money.. as always he will say 'how could a small woman like you can control me like that'

[grahamw48]

Filipinas are very scary when mad.

First time me and the ex had a 'tiff'...thought I was going to have to re-fit the whole kitchen AND start keeping the carving knives in a locked cabinet.

[mickmyrna]

(True, would like to hear what Filipina wives think.)

antchristie , I am here in the uk 1 year and 3 months now , me and my husband never argue even once about financial and whatever problems need to talk to each other ... If i like something we discuss first before i buy it ... and i don't like an expensive thing anyway , my husband have no problem about me because i am like a hermit lol! ( i mean a home bird) and not materialistic girl ...now about your wife talk to her with calm voice and try to ask her about her feelings towards you, you both need to talk to each other and nobody can solve your problem only you and your partner ... hope you sorted out as early as you can ...before its too late .Myrna

[grahamw48]

Aaah the perfect wife !

[bhem_bhem]

Filipinas are very scary when mad.

like a fart we are silent but deadly..

[mickmyrna]

(Aaah the perfect wife ! ) Thats what i am Grahamw48 ....thank you and it's my first time to post here because my husband so busy of his work ... but i am always around just sitting in the corner and observing lol! You know that the hermit is always in the cave ...lol

[grahamw48]

[malditako]

lets not be hopeless romantic etc....the truth is love requires money!!!! no money no honey!

[grahamw48]

Dammit....alone for life then.

[mickmyrna]

For me the important is LOVE ... Yes for money you can buy anything you want but do you think you can buy happiness ?

[Moy]

Filipinas are very scary when mad.

First time me and the ex had a 'tiff'...thought I was going to have to re-fit the whole kitchen AND start keeping the carving knives in a locked cabinet.

[imagine]

Filipinas are very scary when mad.

like a fart we are silent but deadly..

[sars_notd_virus]

I am just lucky to have a husband who understands everything,..I just have to know my limits.
a woman should also learn how to shot her mouth in some circumstances

[sars_notd_virus]

like a fart we are silent but deadly..

I just learned how to fart badly here in the UK
never will i be more over the top than my husband, he still have the last say...My BOSS , thats why he is giving me everything that I need including my addiction with shoes

[Arthur Little]

a woman should also learn how to shot her mouth in some circumstances

... did you mean shut or shoot??

[sars_notd_virus]

OK ... ... but, to quote MY Filipina wife, "Health is Wealth"

I agree, knowing how to look after your partner is priceless in this world!!

Going back to basic....a food on the table whenever the husband came home from work and all knackered means a lot to them... reminding of his check ups with the doctor , medicines and food diets etc ..in short a superwoman,...a wife a friend ,playmate etc ...all-in-one woman is very important in marriage not to say being perfect but its all worth it , part of growing up i say

[sars_notd_virus]

... did you mean shut or shoot??

hahahha yeah thanks sir Art....am i turning into british with my spelling

[Arthur Little]

hahahha yeah thanks sir Art ....am i turning into british with my *spelling

Nah, no fears ... *yours is a BIG improvement on the British standards of spelling.

[sars_notd_virus]

Nah, no fears ... your spelling's a BIG improvement on OURS, Mari.

thanks sir Art

[Arthur Little]

Now, farting (as mentioned by 'bhem bhem' ... above)

That's a different story ... with US it's ...

... wait for it ... > < ... BOOM! BOOM! more like!

Certainly blows away the cobwebs.

[Arthur Little]

Ohh ... ... how I wish we'd a 'fart' icon. So far, comes closest!

[bhem_bhem]

Now, farting (as mentioned by 'bhem bhem' ... above)

That's a different story ... with US it's ...

... wait for it ... > < ... BOOM! BOOM! more like!

Certainly blows away the cobwebs.

my hubby farts loud that it wakes me up.. i swear i want to strangle the bugger at times for making me jump..

[grahamw48]

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