is it culture or just him?

[allyn]

oh.. I'm 29 and he's 26... and when i tell him their such trivial things we are fighting over with, he'll go about telling me how girls in d Uk would do it, and will tell me i am being childish!

yeah, I feel really awful. I love him, but he's driving me nuts sometimes.

hi there!
you know waht in some way i can relate to you...my husband is also young,,a year younger than your hubby

we too have experience what your experiencing,,,,theres a moment when we got argument and he throw the jewelry that he gave to me because he said i dont like and want it anymore...after our crazy argument he realize that what he did is wrong and he tried to find my jewelry one by one in the vacant lot beside our house where he throw those stuff and he gave it back to me,,,its not easy for him to find those things because the vacant lot is full of tall grass....


he also drives me nuts whenever we have arguments with just small things, most of the time i just cry with my irritation....


but i have to accept and try to live with it because i love him so much,,,
in one of my sister friend wedding they talk about being married is a combination of love, trust, respect and understanding...
well in a marriage with two immature person like me and my hubby its a chaos...
the only thing clam us down is our love for each other...

to make the story more shorter,,,,
dont worry mrs..ladyskpe your not alone with that kind of feeling...

smile

[bigtombowski]

Ladyskype,

yeah, it seems like a quite difficult situation you find yourself in. One thing that really stood out was you said he was this way then you were BF and GF!
It seems maybe he wasn't ready to get married. Sorry to say.
I think that maybe, it's just an immaturity that he has and also an insecurity!

Has he been hurt by previous relationships where he has felt that he's not thanked for his gifts? If so, i can understand his feelings, but Lady, i guess u need to assure him that you are a new and clean page for him and that you always love what he gives you.

I think maybe you two need to have a very long talk, because you don't want to experience this all the time for the next 50 years! it would be

I think you need to tell him how this behaviour makes you feel and then you can both move on and be HAPPY!

i hope this helps
tom