sadness

[MissAna]

sorry to hear about your situation shandylove

i too have a problem but not mainly of my husband but his ex-wife. i feel like she is controlling my (our) life and it makes me so upset that me and my husband argue about it.

[Steve.r]

It is a sad situation and here is my view. When we come to Philippines on 'holiday' to see our mahals, we have saved for a long time to make sure that we can provide a nice time with treats for our partner and family. It is seen as normal (from the filipine perspective) to have a western partner who can provide a good time and dig into his pockets for more and more cash. It seems endless and easy.
The harsh reality about the situation is that we (in the UK) are NOT to well off as we appear to be when away on holiday. I think believing that this cash can flow as easily when you come to the Uk is a false belief and maybe you were led to think it was easy when your husband told you of all the 'nice' things to expect in the Uk. He has to support you while you wait for your FLR and maybe he is also finding it tough to keep his head above the water if you talk about money and wanting many things. Money issues always cause arguments especially when it is not easy to earn, and the cost of living in the Uk is so high and prices are always rising. This is the reality and unless your husband didn't tell you all this, I think this is where the problems are stemming from.

There is no need to be rude to you as he looks like a bully, but you need to talk calmly to work out where the root of the problems are coming from. Maybe your expectations of his earning potential or spare cashflow were too high? Life inthe Uk is tough, not a bed of roses by any stretch of the imagination.

I hope you find a solution soon and are happy again.

[Arthur Little]

i too have a problem but not mainly of my husband but his ex-wife. i feel like she is controlling my (our) life and it makes me so upset that me and my husband argue about it.

Likewise, to learn about the problems wrought by the interference of your husband's former wife in your [normal] "wedded bliss" Ana.

I am no marriage guidance counsellor, but cannot see any justification for her meddling in your lives ... other than when it comes to dealing jointly with parental matters that involve any *children they might've raised together. And then only if *THEY are under 18 years' old.

Aside from that, YOUR welfare and happiness should be top of your husband's MAIN list of priorities ... no one else - especially his ex ... whom he OUGHT to be man-enough to stand up to, and who needs to be told politely, but firmly, to back off!