
Originally Posted by
RickyR
It's possible that he's worried and nervous, and having difficulty dealing with that so has said things which he doesn't really mean as a way of lashing out.
For someone who hasn't travelled much, and comes from an area where nobody really knows or has experience of different cultures from the Far East I should imagine its quite daunting. The horror stories in the UK media can put anyone off travelling for life if you believe it.
Once he takes that step and travels to the Philippines, everything will become different and much much clearer. He'll also meet more open minded people who can provide a broader outlook on life.
I think you both really need to talk, but if I'm honest when he sees that detailed information on your personal issues are being aired openly on the forum he might be a bit upset (I certainly would). If your both strong and determined you'll overcome these issues, but be warned a relationship between people of two different cultures can be straining at times. Even now when i've been with my wife for 6 years and we still have days when it's like we're from a different planet and don't understand each others' issues.