maybe he,s a bit of a mummys boy who is listening to comments about how dangerous the philippines might be and mummy don,t want him to go lol just make sure this guy is the one you really want because having these issues already in your relationship start to to ring alarm bells so be careful .As for the language side of things some people are more adept than others myself well i,m useless after living nearly 2 years in cebu i,ve hardly learnt a word it won,t sink into my brain lol