his excuse for not getting a job he didn't want to traumatize the kids by leaving them with a childminder, yet they are traumatized being away from their mother, easy solution he should have saved the money he spent on air-tickets for the kids and got a job, just like most if not all of us had to do
i think he was a bit lucky to get her visa. but as always you should have a legal right to be with your spouse.