Moy, it seems you've had no training.
Now you have some health problem. It's not a light hearted situation.
You need to think very seriously about your health condition.

In fact, from what you've said I would suggest you seriously re-consider the type of work you do.
As you know, my wife is a carer. She has worked for the council for many years. Means she has had the opportunity for some really top quality training which she has adopted. She is strong enough never to have agreed to do anything suspect.

Moy, as it stands right now you need to either be very much stronger in your job not to do those duties you cannot do alone.
Or
Better still take a couple of months off work then try to find a different job (or better controlled one) if thats possible.

Does your hubby work?
Is it full time??
He needs to stand up to the mark and take care of you and the kids

So sorry if that sounds too much. Please don't think less of me for that, but you cannot continue like this.

God Bless Moy