Uk mums how do you cope?

[milesaway1113]

I dont see much difference to the PI when it comes to be a MUMMY apart from there are loads of helping hand around ready to rescue so we can have a little rest but at the end of the day the welfare and safetyness of the kids will be down still to the parents specially MUMMY who is normally the incharge.

I also think it will be simplier and easier as things and baby stuffs here in the UK are more advance than in the Philippines. You just got to manage your time wisely and for sure, hubbys are on standy to recue as well.

Exactly that is the different. Having your close relatives around you is a very big help to mums... in my experienced, mums in the philippines is
easier. They have the mums of the mums, aunts, uncles, nieces, sisters, brothers and nephews, and so on and so forth(very long if we name them all...hehe) to relieve you for awhile and you can just run around and past the baby to them.

Technologies wont help you emotionally, physically, and mentally and moral support.

Ms. Melovesengland are you a mum? Tell me you wont find it difficult when you have one and you not being around your relatives when the time comes.

[melovesengland]

Exactly that is the different. Having your close relatives around you is a very big help to mums... in my experienced, mums in the philippines is
easier. They have the mums of the mums, aunts, uncles, nieces, sisters, brothers and nephews, and so on and so forth(very long if we name them all...hehe) to relieve you for awhile and you can just run around and past the baby to them.

Technologies wont help you emotionally, physically, and mentally and moral support.

Ms. Melovesengland are you a mum? Tell me you wont find it difficult when you have one and you not being around your relatives when the time comes.

Like IMAGINE said, whatever your circumstances are you have got to GET ON WITH IT. When you have KIDS, there will be no ME TIME anymore because you already have a responsibility. Being a parent is a CHOICE, if you dont want to be emotionally, physically and mentally UNSTABLE then dont have kids. SIMPLE.

BTW, I was a SINGLE MOTHER of 1 before and I COPED.

[milesaway1113]

Like IMAGINE said, whatever your circumstances are you have got to GET ON WITH IT. When you have KIDS, there will be no ME TIME anymore because you already have a responsibility. Being a parent is a CHOICE, if you dont want to be emotionally, physically and mentally UNSTABLE then dont have kids. SIMPLE.

BTW, I was a SINGLE MOTHER of 1 before and I COPED.

I salute you then! but for sure you didnt have your baby here in the UK??

I do agree on what Mr. Imagine had said. And for your information i am mentally, emotionally, and physically stable. And very happy with my life.

Thought this forum is to gain friends not to offend people??

I posted this thing just to have chat with other mums like me that have the baby in here in the UK and have a laugh with them not to be offended by you.

By the way GREENWICH has all the things to offer for Mums and Dads and baby's! Even the well known greenwich maritime museum had activities for mums and babys.... and so we are lucky where we are and we dnt get bored because u have alot of things to do in a day.

Was just trying to have a conversation with mums and dads that are very kind to share what is their experience not to boast.

thanks anyway!!!

[melovesengland]

I salute you then! but for sure you didnt have your baby here in the UK??

I do agree on what Mr. Imagine had said. And for your information i am mentally, emotionally, and physically stable. And very happy with my life.

Thought this forum is to gain friends not to offend people??

I posted this thing just to have chat with other mums like me that have the baby in here in the UK and have a laugh with them not to be offended by you.

By the way GREENWICH has all the things to offer for Mums and Dads and baby's! Even the well known greenwich maritime museum had activities for mums and babys.... and so we are lucky where we are and we dnt get bored because u have alot of things to do in a day.

Was just trying to have a conversation with mums and dads that are very kind to share what is their experience not to boast.

thanks anyway!!!

oopps..

I aint arguing, I am just giving my own thoughts. I didnt say your unstable, I am just giving a fact and sharing my own outlook, I aint boasting. My comments dont intend to offend people, its how you picked it up. If I done what I have done before to my daughter without the help of any, then for sure I will do it again in future, whether I am in the UK or in the PI.

You have got to accept the fact that some things wont go the way you wanted them to be and YOU GOT TO GET ON WITH IT. Family are family but sometimes you got to stand on your own feet for independence.

[milesaway1113]

oopps..

I aint arguing, I am just giving my own thoughts. I didnt say your unstable, I am just giving a fact and sharing my own outlook, I aint boasting. My comments dont intend to offend people, its how you picked it up. If I done what I have done before to my daughter without the help of any, then for sure I will do it again in future, whether I am in the UK or in the PI.

You have got to accept the fact that some things wont go the way you wanted them to be and YOU GOT TO GET ON WITH IT. Family are family but sometimes you got to stand on your own feet for independence.

There is no point of dicussing this things with you because we dnt have anything in common. I gave birth in here in the UK. You gave birth in the PH. My son is with me now and we are raising him and looking after him now. Your daughter probably in the PH and is being look after by someone else..

[melovesengland]

There is no point of dicussing this things with you because we dnt have anything in common. I gave birth in here in the UK. You gave birth in the PH. My son is with me now and we are raising him and looking after him now. Your daughter probably in the PH and is being look after by someone else..

I aint discussing things with you. I was just pointing the facts that u need to consider. This is a forum and you need to understand that we are all different when it comes to opinion but facts will remain as facts.

If you dont accept opinions and be open minded then dont start a thread then.

Told her Sir Joe that I aint arguing. She must have misunderstood things.

[sars_notd_virus]

When you have KIDS, there will be no ME TIME anymore because you already have a responsibility.

I dont agree that Mums shouldnt have time for themselves anymore
how can you look after your partner and kids if you dont look after yourself

[melovesengland]

I dont agree that Mums shouldnt have time for themselves anymore
how can you look after your partner and kids if you dont look after yourself

ohh yeah youve got point there sars. I wasnt thinking about that as i didnt have any husband to look after to, ive only got me daughter cos im a singlemum. would be nice to have a me time as well.

[sars_notd_virus]

ohh yeah youve got point there sars. I wasnt thinking about that as i didnt have any husband to look after to, ive only got me daughter cos im a singlemum. would be nice to have a me time as well.

thanks.
I've read some of your thread it seems your married ...oh but anyway, single mum or not or with partner /married etc ... you have to look after yourself before you can look after people ...cant be a ''losyang'' if you know what i mean??

[melovesengland]

thanks.
I've read some of your thread it seems your married ...oh but anyway, single mum or not or with partner /married etc ... you have to look after yourself before you can look after people ...cant be a ''losyang'' if you know what i mean??

I was a singlemum but got married with an englishman last year. ohh yes, i agree on that. you cant look after someone if you yourself isnt fit enough.

[marksroomspain]

Dont know about mums to be but as a dad to be in 3 weeks time OMG the expense but would not change it for the world even first time daddy at 42 but my Mrs is still young lol so parent hood here we come

[sars_notd_virus]

Dont know about mums to be but as a dad to be in 3 weeks time OMG the expense but would not change it for the world even first time daddy at 42

you'll be fine!!...have you practiced changing nappies yet???

[Moy]

you'll be fine!!...have you practiced changing nappies yet???

or waking on the middle of the night for few months or so feeding the baby

[grahamw48]

Dont know about mums to be but as a dad to be in 3 weeks time OMG the expense but would not change it for the world even first time daddy at 42 but my Mrs is still young lol so parent hood here we come

Similar situation for me...first time dad at 42.

Don't worry. You'll be fine, but it does change your life, for the better.