Perhaps I can reassure you about similar vibes I'd been receiving in the course of my online correspondence with a Filipina (widowed like myself) back in 2007/8.
It's not our policy to pass judgement... each member has the right as an individual to live his/her life according to how he/she sees fit.
... after almost a year of emailing one another, I stopped asking myself, "what if ... ?". And, without further deliberation, I then went and booked a flight to go out and visit the aforementioned lady in the Philippines. Thus ...
... here I am 41/2 years later... happily married to my Mahal, blissfully aware of having taken one of THE best decisions I'd ever made - or would even have thought possible at my advanced age.
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