I just got Engaged

[Steve.r]

I will offer congratulations Slip.

But.. until you have met in person, please keep an open mind and fare with extreme caution. Just because you have asked her to marry you and she has accepted, does not mean that (at this point) that you are in any way obliged to support her or her family or extended family.
The first thing you need to do is arrange to go and see her in person and see how the real person measures up to her online personality. I really hope she is for real, I hope all she has told you is for real, but... she is still not your resonsibility and you are not her or her family's 'cash cow' Do not make a rod for your own back right now.

Good luck.... but eyes open please.

[Arthur Little]

I will offer congratulations Slip.

But.. until you have met in person, please keep an open mind and fare with extreme caution. Just because you have asked her to marry you and she has accepted, does not mean that (at this point) that you are in any way obliged to support her or her family or extended family.
The first thing you need to do is arrange to go and see her in person and see how the real person measures up to her online personality. I really hope she is for real, I hope all she has told you is for real, but... she is still not your resonsibility and you are not her or her family's 'cash cow' Do not make a rod for your own back right now.

Good luck.... but eyes open please.

... sensible, down to Earth advice, Steve!

[angellegwen]

I will offer congratulations Slip.

But.. until you have met in person, please keep an open mind and fare with extreme caution. Just because you have asked her to marry you and she has accepted, does not mean that (at this point) that you are in any way obliged to support her or her family or extended family.
The first thing you need to do is arrange to go and see her in person and see how the real person measures up to her online personality. I really hope she is for real, I hope all she has told you is for real, but... she is still not your resonsibility and you are not her or her family's 'cash cow' Do not make a rod for your own back right now.

Good luck.... but eyes open please.

For Slip...I agree with Steve..
Im also filipina and lets face it there are some people who are just not true..Just be careful especially that you cant tell people in facebook (ask her why cant she tell her family back in Philippines that you 2 are now engage)? So you both can change your status in fb that u 2 are now engaged. Not being paranoid but what if she have a bf aside from u, thats why she cant post the status change on her FB or maybe she's married back home... You know her better than anyone else here but just be open to all possibilities. Above all, I wish you both a successful relationship. Hope you both be happy. Good luck!

[Slip]

I should say she asked me not to say anything until she could tell her family. I have her Sister as a friend and she didn't want her Sister to hear about it first from a status update!

Since I made this post she has told her family and I have told a few people and although I haven't changed my relationship status on facebook to engaged, she has.

Off course I do take on board Steve's advice and Angellegwen's. Believe me when I say I will not be sending money to anyone. It may not sound like it, but I dont fool easily and even the slightest hint that something isn't right then I will not be going ahead with it.

I honestly feel she is for real......but I don't want to be left thinking about the one that got away in years to xcome because I was overcautious, sometimes you really do have to throw caution to the wind.......

[Dedworth]

I honestly feel she is for real......but I don't want to be left thinking about the one that got away in years to xcome because I was overcautious, sometimes you really do have to throw caution to the wind.......

He who dares Slip