Hi CherrysorraI hope your husband will support you in your visa application, talk to him again and try to explain calmly, maybe its just some misunderstanding or maybe he doesn't want you working coz he's (will be) jealous
or afraid you'll find someone else, just assure him. Maybe that will change his mind..
I don't know anything about ILR, but mayb its alright as long as its not beyond the expiry date of ur FLR visa...but wait for the advise of the respected member here who knows more about this and search UKBA maybe about ILR thing...goodluck!