Should i or shouldnt i?

[London_Manila]

Most scammers on these dating sites will be asking for money(help) at some stage
Some do play the long game though..................
Dont trust the posted pics on those sites demand to see them in webcam
I have met a few from dating sites in Manila and they are not all bad

[stevewool]

before i met my wife i was scammed just the once, but that was for very very little, infact it was a gift, so really i was not bothered about that,
Just trust in yourself and use your head, the one on your shoulders, and just enjoy talking to all the wonderful people that may come your way

[sars_notd_virus]

Hello Forum,

I have decided to start looking for nice Filipina,, sick of dreaming to find a good wife. But my Problem is i have no faith in the internet, way to many scammers for me.

So I have been thinking to make contact with a Filipino family i used to know a couple of years ago through my kids school,,, I havent spoken to them for a good while and even forgot the mothers name: I would simply have to knock on the door and ask them could they help me...


Not sure how it would be received???

Any advice would be appreciated

Neil

It will be better if you know a filipino and can recommend someone to you at least you can blame them if it didnt work alright...the internet is full of scammers (so i wouldnt recommend that or any dating sites)

[grahamw48]

It will be better if you know a filipino and can recommend someone to you at least you can blame them if it didnt work alright...the internet is full of scammers (so i wouldnt recommend that or any dating sites)

I think you will find ( particularly if you read the previous posts on this thread) that a lot of your fellow members would disagree with you on that.

[Michael Parnham]

Go and knock on the door

[London_Manila]

It will be better if you know a filipino and can recommend someone to you at least you can blame them if it didnt work alright...the internet is full of scammers (so i wouldnt recommend that or any dating sites)

This is not a great idea

Most will recommend a friend or even worse a relative back in the Philippines
Whether you are really suited or not will not even come into it
Getting their friends or relatives "near" will be all they care about

[sars_notd_virus]

I think you will find ( particularly if you read the previous posts on this thread) that a lot of your fellow members would disagree with you on that.

I dont mind if someone disagree but what is wrong if a filipino recommend a fellow filipino to someone??? my reply is for the original poster since he is asking for an advice, ... although some of you find real gems on the internet and dating sites we cannot change the ''fact'' that some members on here have also been scammed over the internet and dating sites ... at the end of the day, it will be jakeob who will decide and hope he updates as soon..goodluck with your search jakeob!!

[sars_notd_virus]

This is not a great idea

Most will recommend a friend or even worse a relative back in the Philippines
Whether you are really suited or not will not even come into it
Getting their friends or relatives "near" will be all they care about

your tar brush is not a good idea ..

NOt all filipinas are grabbers!!
Not all filipina wants to live near their families and friends!!

[jakeob]

I do take Both points of view, and can see the pit falls in no matter which way i go...

I have been on Dateinasia,, and yes i could probably make some contacts there with decent people if i put the time in,,, For me its not only the dangers of scammers but also the very real point that, i personaly like to meet people in the flesh before i decide if there is any chemistry there,,, Also i will keep an open mind about Knocking on any doors...

I am also still thinking about just having a step back and just booking a vacation to the Phils and see who i meet..

[grahamw48]

I dont mind if someone disagree but what is wrong if a filipino recommend a fellow filipino to someone??? my reply is for the original poster since he is asking for an advice, ... although some of you find real gems on the internet and dating sites we cannot change the ''fact'' that some members on here have also been scammed over the internet and dating sites ... at the end of the day, it will be jakeob who will decide and hope he updates as soon..goodluck with your search jakeob!!

My point was simply about the statement of yours that I put in bold....nothing else.

It is a fact that many of our members have met and subsequently married ladies they originally met on dating sites.

In your post you warned people off using such sites.

[sars_notd_virus]

My point was simply about the statement of yours that I put in bold....nothing else.

In your post you warned people off using such sites.

Does it matter Graham?? my reply is not for all of you... my reply is for the Original Poster (Jakeob) on post number 33 which you quoted differently ..oh yes of course i can read and understand and I think Jakeob has decided ?? lets just move on and wish him the best of luck!!

I do take Both points of view, and can see the pit falls in no matter which way i go...

I have been on Dateinasia,, and yes i could probably make some contacts there with decent people if i put the time in,,, For me its not only the dangers of scammers but also the very real point that, i personaly like to meet people in the flesh before i decide if there is any chemistry there,,,

Also i will keep an open mind about Knocking on any doors...

I am also still thinking about just having a step back and just booking a vacation to the Phils and see who i meet..

[grahamw48]

Clearly you have misinterpreted the meaning of my posts.

Yes it does matter.

There are lots of other people browsing this site, as well as the regular posters. Some of them may already have relationships with people on dating sites, or are perhaps considering doing so.

I feel that it is important that there is a balance of views here, preferably based upon FACTS.

In your post you 'rubbished' dating sites. That is I feel neither accurate nor fair.

So, now that I have once again attempted to bring some balance to the discussion, I will leave it at that and let others be the judge.

[sars_notd_virus]

Clearly you have misinterpreted the meaning of my posts.

Yes it does matter.


I feel that it is important that there is a balance of views here, preferably based upon FACTS.

In your post you 'rubbished' dating sites. That is I feel neither accurate nor fair.

So, now that I have once again attempted to bring some balance to the discussion, I will leave it at that and let others be the judge.

Please don't be offended by my opinon I have a Husband who I can rely on for that.
I was rubbishing dating sites??.. just giving a heads up to a fellow forum member, besides in either way its a case of buyer beware as it is in any relationship where you havent know the person for a length of time and even then you don't really know a person till you have to live with them.
So, you can now borrow my step ladder if you wish so you can climb down of your high horse. Here endeth the lesson.

[-sillybilly-]

If you should ever be subject to anything remotely like this, she is not for you!

You may well have seen this before and every expat living in Thailand has heard this tale first hand, many times! I'm not suggesting for a second that you would fall for this but many guys have over the years. It still makes me laugh.

Dear Tom, Dick or Harry (Sorry I get name wrong),

I love you and I miss you too much. My friend bar say you old man look same same monkey but I know you hansum man. I have problem I write you before that buffalo me sick. Now it die fall down and dead in middle of rice field. Bad fortune when it fall it fall on papa and break leg he three place. Now he not work. Brother me make stretcher bamboo he take from roof house. Roof come down and rain in house. He take papa to hospital on motorcycle. Have big accident when he come home hit police car. Police say brother me blame. Police say he pay big money. Not worry darling motorcycle OK but police car bad broken. Bad luck make Mama heart problem. Doctor say she must triple by pass. I no understand but brother me say you understand.

You know darling I only work in bar and not go with man. I wait for you come back Hua Hin but if you no help me I go with many many many many farang get pay bills money.

Old people my village say you responsible if you send money me before buy medicine sick buffalo then it not die papa no break leg house have roof brother no ride into police car mama no have heart problem.

Send me 500,000 baht for my bank. Papa fix 50,000, new roof 30,000, new police car 200,000, Mama fix 150,000. I take off 2,000 baht for sell buffalo meat but me have to pay more hospital bill for 24 people have problem eat contaminated meat 12,000 baht. I do not know money England but my brother me say me it 52.2424 mid market rate close of trading yesterday. This means you send me 10,000 your pound.

I love you darling and only you (cough)

Noi.

Hey Bigtilly you missed this......
" Me love you long time!"
Hahaha! What a brilliant story. Awesome!

[grahamw48]

Please don't be offended by my opinon I have a Husband who I can rely on for that.
I was rubbishing dating sites??.. just giving a heads up to a fellow forum member, besides in either way its a case of buyer beware as it is in any relationship where you havent know the person for a length of time and even then you don't really know a person till you have to live with them.
So, you can now borrow my step ladder if you wish so you can climb down of your high horse. Here endeth the lesson.

You're the one who seems to be wanting to make this into something personal.

I find your replies to me offensive.

Nothing to do with high horses.

You're on ignore now, so no need to post any more sarcastic comments back to me.

[London_Manila]

your tar brush is not a good idea ..

NOt all filipinas are grabbers!!
Not all filipina wants to live near their families and friends!!

I stand by those remarks

I have a Filipina neighbor who lives a few doors down the road from me
She knows i go to the Philippines around 3 times a year
All i ever get from her is "meet my sister in Manila"


I think you will find most pinoys actually like to be near their families

[Michael Parnham]

Certainly lot's of mixed opinions and suggestions Jakeob, good luck with whatever you decide!

[stevewool]

whos right whos wrong, get out there and try,
Take me for instant, i was naive at first, i fell in love with every lady that came my way, i would talk to anyone, even a ladyboy once but who cares i was lonely and i enjoyed a chat, it takes time to get that relationship going and if that person is the one they will stick by you all the time, maybe they may ask you for something maybe they may not but its down to you to either say yes or no,
You will know the person is right but it may take a few months, but once you have found her well life will become wonderful for you both, but just remember she will have to trust you too in all you are telling her, you could be talking and telling everyone that they are the one for you, it works both ways remember

[bigtilly]

Hey Bigtilly you missed this......
" Me love you long time!"
Hahaha! What a brilliant story. Awesome!

There is always the very popular: "I only sleep with 35 men last month but, you the one I remember most. What name you again?"

[Bikramyogi]

wow so many different points of view here but let's not argue because its entirely up to the original poster which direction he wants to take. in the end its still his decision that matters.so goodluck!

i disagree on saying internet dating sites are all scammers im sure there are a lot of ladies and gentlemen out there who are genuine and have pure hearts to try a different way of meeting their significant other. having been through those sites, i could pretty much say its not that bad you just have to be very careful not to send anything, or do anything if you have not personally spent some real time with that person. there are success stories on dating sites and some are unfortunate too. it takes a lot of patience and perseverance to get to know a person specially so its up to you if you want to be consistent in your communication with someone on the other side of the world.

[Terpe]

There is always the very popular: "I only sleep with 35 men last month but, you the one I remember most. What name you again?"

How odd.

[Terpe]

wow so many different points of view here but let's not argue because its entirely up to the original poster which direction he wants to take. in the end its still his decision that matters.so goodluck!

i disagree on saying internet dating sites are all scammers im sure there are a lot of ladies and gentlemen out there who are genuine and have pure hearts to try a different way of meeting their significant other. having been through those sites, i could pretty much say its not that bad you just have to be very careful not to send anything, or do anything if you have not personally spent some real time with that person. there are success stories on dating sites and some are unfortunate too. it takes a lot of patience and perseverance to get to know a person specially so its up to you if you want to be consistent in your communication with someone on the other side of the world.

Personally, I'd agree with you.
I can see how difficult it can be to actually meet people these days.
The internet and social media seems to be a natural and obvious choice to widen our scope.

I also feel that most folks are honestly seeking friendships/romance.

We must accept that there will be dangers, plenty of advice out there about this.

Be aware be sensible and be lucky, but don't be lonely due to fear. Good luck to all.

[jakeob]

Thanks Terpe, for the words of wisdom... The (Dont be lonley due to fear) really hit home..

I have been lucky enough to find some of the wedding photos on the furum,,, and i must say i found it wonderful to see "Real" success stories.. Nothing more encouraging than seeing happy couples...