Should i or shouldnt i?

[jakeob]

Hello Forum,

I have decided to start looking for nice Filipina,, sick of dreaming to find a good wife. But my Problem is i have no faith in the internet, way to many scammers for me.

So I have been thinking to make contact with a Filipino family i used to know a couple of years ago through my kids school,,, I havent spoken to them for a good while and even forgot the mothers name: I would simply have to knock on the door and ask them could they help me...


Not sure how it would be received???

Any advice would be appreciated

Neil

[grahamw48]

Don't give up on the dating sites. They are not ALL scammers on there.

In fact I met my young lady through dateinasia.com.

You just have to become savvy at weeding the scammers from the genuine....and there are many many thousands of genuine ladies on there.

Your idea of contacting a family you once knew sounds a bit 'desperate' to me. lol. (no offence intended ).

A trip to the Philippines will really put everything into perspective for you, and it is a FUN destination anyway.

Should you wish to confine your search to the UK, then yes there are plenty of (single ???) Filipinas here, but you also have stiff competition in the 'wooing' stakes.

Quite a few Filipinas on here looking for a good man of course.

[melovesengland]

Don't give up on the dating sites. They are not ALL scammers on there.

In fact I met my young lady through dateinasia.com.

You just have to become savvy at weeding the scammers from the genuine....and there are many many thousands of genuine ladies on there.

Your idea of contacting a family you once knew sounds a bit 'desperate' to me. lol. (no offence intended ).

A trip to the Philippines will really put everything into perspective for you, and it is a FUN destination anyway.

Should you wish to confine your search to the UK, then yes there are plenty of (single ???) Filipinas here, but you also have stiff competition in the 'wooing' stakes.

We met in dateinasia as well and became good friends before we got into serious relationsip, in fact we ended up in marriage!! I agree with Graham, not all of them are scammers but you should be so aware and careful. You can visit the country as well for soul searching, being there and meet ladies in person might work. Dont give up! there are loads of genuine outhere! Goodluck!

[Arthur Little]

Hello Forum,

I have decided to start looking for nice Philipina,, sick of dreaming to find a good wife. But my Problem is i have no faith in the internet, way to many scammers for me.

So I have been thinking to make contact with a Filipino family i used to know a couple of years ago through my kids school,,, I havent spoken to them for a good while and even forgot the mothers name: I would simply have to knock on the door and ask them could they help me...


Not sure how it would be received???

Any advice would be appreciated

Neil

Hmm ... could have a "knock on" effect, Neil ... hopefully a happy one!

[bhem_bhem]

on line dating isn't that bad,, i met my hubby in plentyoffish.com which now called as pof.com.. in time, you can actually identify which one is genuine and which isn't..

[Arthur Little]

You can visit the country as well for soul searching, being there and meet ladies in person might work. Dont give up! there are loads of genuine outhere! Goodluck!

There's a good idea (I'm actually being serious now!). *Sample the wonderful, second-to-none, Filipino culture. And then ... ... who knows? ... perhaps even use *this as a plausible excuse for "knocking on that particular door" while he's over in the Philippines.

[Jamesey]

I met my filipina wife here in England, so you could try and do the same. You just need to meet some filipinas socially. But without knowing your personal situation, interests, etc. it's difficult to give any advice on that!

Another option is to spend a decent amount of time in the Philippines (say 6 months). But that would mean quitting your job or taking a sabatical. I don't know if this would be practical for you.

[bigtilly]

I met my wife on findloveasia.com and, of course, there are scammers around. A dead give away for me was when, in a girls profile, she was looking for a guy in the age range of 18-90!
You just have to pick the wheat from the chaff. There are no guarantees that you will find what you are looking for but, we can't go through life mistrusting everyone we meet.
Approach it with an open mind. Take your time, get to know the girl you really like and there is only 1 way to find out if she is being straight with you, get your .... over to the Phils!!

Good luck mate.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Graham pretty much sums it up.

For what it's worth I met Maria within about a week after I joined an Asian dating site and I felt comfortable about her pretty quickly. She sent me plenty of photo's of herself, and had a webcam and internet at home, and I also spoke with her family. Kind of an ideal scenario.

Give it a go but be patient. You could fall in love with a scammer straight away or you could fall in love with a diamond several months down the line.

[Ako Si Jamie]

A dead give away for me was when, in a girls profile, she was looking for a guy in the age range of 18-90!

Very good point actually.

Maria stated one her profile she didn't want a guy over 40. At the time I was 39. Hope she doesn't trade me in now I'm overage!

And any girl looking for a bloke aged 18-90 has scammer written all over her.

[stevewool]

i would rather meet a girl who is still in the phils, yes its a long hard road but thats my choice, plus there is nothing wrong with the internet for finding your love one too

[jakeob]

Well thanks for the replies,, Sounds like the Internet has given some good results so might try that avenue...

6 months in the Phils sounds great,,, but not an option for me, ive got a business here so 2 weeks vacations is all i will ever manage,,,,

[marksroomspain]

Same with me like Jamie I met my wife on aisan dating.

The reason I knew she was genuine is when she sometimes worked a 16 hour shift as a nurse then still found time to chat to me via the internet for another 3 hours sometimes running down the road in the pouring rain just to make sure she was there on time

Yes I know its hard to trust but like the other guys have said on here you will soon weed out the good from the bad.

Good luck on whatever decision you make Jakeob...

[jakeob]

It really is great to see so many happy couples on here,,,

On the site dateinasia.com is it right that i can only see 1 photo of each lady? or maybe i will see more after i join??

[grahamw48]

Yes, it's one of the shortcomings of that site...just the one pic.

So make sure it's a good one !

After a chat or two, just ask for the young lady's email and/or Yahoo Messenger/Facebook ID, then you can exchange as many pics as you like...and find out a lot more about her.

[raynaputi]

Keith and I met thru Facebook!

[raynaputi]

Here's one single lady of the forum..

http://filipinaroses.com/showthread....994#post418994

Note: Sorry Bikramyogi if I'm trying to match you up..just showing the new guy a single lady around here..

[Bikramyogi]

I joined dateinasia.com too quite a long time ago, spoke to some guys but no luck. its hard to trust someone you've never met personally.

just a couple of reminders when you join dating sites.

- Some people use a different photo to hide what they really look like, (play safe) so you have to make sure theyre genuine

- When a girl over the internet as you go along with your conversations starts talking about all her perils in life e.g. having a hard time looking for a job, not able to support her family, parents are terribly sick needs to get them to the hospital and cope with hospital bills,lost her job so cant keep up with bills, parents have no job so she cant go to school etc etc.. be careful and make sure she's telling the truth and not making it up just to get you to send money.

- Never send money.

- Meet her. Whatever it takes. there's nothing like meeting the person you virtually admire and see if there is spark face to face.

- Meet the parents. Meet the family.

Goodluck in your search :-) im sure there are a lot of single ladies out here.

[Bikramyogi]

Here's one single lady of the forum..

http://filipinaroses.com/showthread....994#post418994

Note: Sorry Bikramyogi if I'm trying to match you up..just showing the new guy a single lady around here..

lol nice move rayna, but i just got out of a relationship so i'm on the i-love-myself stage for awhile

[grahamw48]

Good post Bikramyogi .

I've given you some rep, but not sure if you can receive it until you reach 'respected member' status. Ah well, it's the thought that counts.

[Dedworth]

So I have been thinking to make contact with a Filipino family i used to know a couple of years ago through my kids school,,, I havent spoken to them for a good while and even forgot the mothers name: I would simply have to knock on the door and ask them could they help me...


Not sure how it would be received???

Any advice would be appreciated

Neil

Worth a shot - if you don't ask you don't get. I met Mrs D over here

[Bikramyogi]

Good post Bikramyogi .

I've given you some rep, but not sure if you can receive it until you reach 'respected member' status. Ah well, it's the thought that counts.

Thank you grahamw48 but errr.. i dont know where to find it.. im new to the site and the settings can be a bit confusing to me hehe but yes its the thought that counts

[grahamw48]

It's the little star button at the bottom of each reply box...not sure if you can even give rep until you're a 'respected member' .

Don't ask me about how the member grades work...all goes over my head.

And no need to give me rep...got more than I deserve already I reckon.

[Bikramyogi]

Thanks! Oh I'll figure it out eventually. maybe someday i will be a respected member.

[bigtilly]

If you should ever be subject to anything remotely like this, she is not for you!

You may well have seen this before and every expat living in Thailand has heard this tale first hand, many times! I'm not suggesting for a second that you would fall for this but many guys have over the years. It still makes me laugh.

Dear Tom, Dick or Harry (Sorry I get name wrong),

I love you and I miss you too much. My friend bar say you old man look same same monkey but I know you hansum man. I have problem I write you before that buffalo me sick. Now it die fall down and dead in middle of rice field. Bad fortune when it fall it fall on papa and break leg he three place. Now he not work. Brother me make stretcher bamboo he take from roof house. Roof come down and rain in house. He take papa to hospital on motorcycle. Have big accident when he come home hit police car. Police say brother me blame. Police say he pay big money. Not worry darling motorcycle OK but police car bad broken. Bad luck make Mama heart problem. Doctor say she must triple by pass. I no understand but brother me say you understand.

You know darling I only work in bar and not go with man. I wait for you come back Hua Hin but if you no help me I go with many many many many farang get pay bills money.

Old people my village say you responsible if you send money me before buy medicine sick buffalo then it not die papa no break leg house have roof brother no ride into police car mama no have heart problem.

Send me 500,000 baht for my bank. Papa fix 50,000, new roof 30,000, new police car 200,000, Mama fix 150,000. I take off 2,000 baht for sell buffalo meat but me have to pay more hospital bill for 24 people have problem eat contaminated meat 12,000 baht. I do not know money England but my brother me say me it 52.2424 mid market rate close of trading yesterday. This means you send me 10,000 your pound.

I love you darling and only you (cough)

Noi.

[jakeob]

Thanks guys for all the advice,,, Bikramyogi glad to see your going through the love yourself stage i hope your back on form soon enough...

[melovesengland]

Thanks! Oh I'll figure it out eventually. maybe someday i will be a respected member.

You'll be very soon! Keep up the good work.

[Slip]

Same with me like Jamie I met my wife on aisan dating.

The reason I knew she was genuine is when she sometimes worked a 16 hour shift as a nurse then still found time to chat to me via the internet for another 3 hours sometimes running down the road in the pouring rain just to make sure she was there on time

I wasn't sure mine was genuine when we met back in October.. But like yours mine will work a 14 hour day and still find time to chat to me and only get 4-5 hours sleep, as much as I tell her to sleep and we can skype another time she will always want to speak to me and fall asleep whilst chatting.
Even tonight she was falling asleep at 11pm her time while we chatted on skype, but she insisted on staying online to talk.... It was so at midnight she could wish me a happy valentines, which she did exactly at 12am on the dot, by 12.05 she was fast asleep, i still have skype on and she is still asleep at now after 2am.

Hopefully the connection will stay on and I can say good morning to her later



As for finding a genuine one, trust your instincts, if you think something is not right then it probably isn't

[Bikramyogi]

If you should ever be subject to anything remotely like this, she is not for you!

You may well have seen this before and every expat living in Thailand has heard this tale first hand, many times! I'm not suggesting for a second that you would fall for this but many guys have over the years. It still makes me laugh.

Dear Tom, Dick or Harry (Sorry I get name wrong),

I love you and I miss you too much. My friend bar say you old man look same same monkey but I know you hansum man. I have problem I write you before that buffalo me sick. Now it die fall down and dead in middle of rice field. Bad fortune when it fall it fall on papa and break leg he three place. Now he not work. Brother me make stretcher bamboo he take from roof house. Roof come down and rain in house. He take papa to hospital on motorcycle. Have big accident when he come home hit police car. Police say brother me blame. Police say he pay big money. Not worry darling motorcycle OK but police car bad broken. Bad luck make Mama heart problem. Doctor say she must triple by pass. I no understand but brother me say you understand.

You know darling I only work in bar and not go with man. I wait for you come back Hua Hin but if you no help me I go with many many many many farang get pay bills money.

Old people my village say you responsible if you send money me before buy medicine sick buffalo then it not die papa no break leg house have roof brother no ride into police car mama no have heart problem.

Send me 500,000 baht for my bank. Papa fix 50,000, new roof 30,000, new police car 200,000, Mama fix 150,000. I take off 2,000 baht for sell buffalo meat but me have to pay more hospital bill for 24 people have problem eat contaminated meat 12,000 baht. I do not know money England but my brother me say me it 52.2424 mid market rate close of trading yesterday. This means you send me 10,000 your pound.

I love you darling and only you (cough)

Noi.

Oh dear, I nearly fell on the chair laughing while reading this!!

[Michael Parnham]

Great stuff