Rayna i understand what you are saying,and treated properly it is a fantastic thing, my problem is when your family lives in the same town even a few streets away but cant be bothered to tell you face to face or even a phone call, but are so quick to make the news on facebook, being from a large family we tend to find out from other members about things like this, have you heard this and that, but for some reason that has not happened, my poor sister has brought a condolence card but is afraid to send it just in case she is wrong, may be its just my family but either way its wrong for someone so close