There is a hell lot of topic to post but as far as your wife is concern i think this family issue specially her immediate family that she really love should be discussed by only the couple.
Any filipino wife who would find and read this herself about intriguing your family behind her back would be very upset and cross.
Everyone's family has got different situations and issues in life and unfortunately filipino familys do stick and help to each other what happened even before you met them. Its only fortunate that the other has the luck but im pretty sure one member of the family will do the same if its the other way round.
We cant be that hypocrite to everyone saying yes you all love your wife but her family is a pain!
You lot chose to be with someone who is a well family orientated and you should consider yourself lucky to have such a multi task wife.