Quote Originally Posted by stevewool View Post
well i know some do help out with the extended family but what happens when mum and dad has gone do you still help your brothers and sisters, and what happens once you move over to the phils are you expected still to help,
I doubt that anyone can give you an answer on this.
It really does come down to some basic 'rules' that in turn depend on the circumstances of the extended family.

We also try to help for emergencies, but............there's a limit. There's also a selection process. No help for those who don't help themselves and don't help the other family members.
We never give money just for the asking, there needs to be a darn good reason and I need to know that any help we give will be 'self-sustaining' as much as possible.
You know the sort of thing I mean......... don't give them fish to eat help them to catch their own.

Nearly all the financial support we provide is for education. Our hope is that this will benefit all the family.

In my opinion if a family member is not working, or not looking to help other family members, or not looking for ways to make even a small contribution to their own life then they could expect ziltch from us.

Once I move over to the Paradise Islands I am expecting they will be helping me..... a poor old pensioner