Free handouts to freeloaders is definitely wrong and also sends the wrong message. This must be established quite early on I believe.
We all feel that we would like to help in some way to those 'who we know' deserve it, but to me it is clear who is not deserving.
I have never been asked directly for money by family members and maybe because we have distanced ourselves from the main hub, I look after my direct family, who Steve has met, so he knows my responsibilty and I have another mouth to feed in 4 month's time. But i can manage this.
What I have never been is a cash cow. Only one time I was asked for help and that was for my mother in law, and I did help. But, what did annoy me about this was that 'I' was the 'only' one to offer help. My wife's uncle, who is substantially well off never offered a penny to help. This for me is a major sign. He couldn't even be bothered to help his own sister... SO... not all filipino families will help others and this is my point. Help, but try to find the limits. Who will help you in a time of need? Remember that our steets are paved with gold, and we cant ask for help, right ?
