As has already been said really, family matters can be an area of great sensitivity, and perhaps not for discussion on an open forum.
We chose to marry or get into a relationship with who we did, and most if not all of us should have realised very early on that we were getting into a slightly different mindset regarding family responsibilities than we might have done had we met someone from around the corner in our own towns.

As always, communication is king. It's also maybe good for the men to remember, that despite what many might claim, most women deep down in the end like and respect the man for being assertive, decisive and making the final decision Not bullying or any rubbish like that - just being the one to take control. It is a very fine line of course.

What many would take great offence at, is having such a personal thing discussed outside the family.

In the end, we have to do what we think is right. Firm ground rules from the start, same as any relationship really