Thankyou to everyone who answered very helpful indeed. Can I just add, this lady does not want to leave her homeland and does not want to come to England. She has one child. She has, on multiple occasions, turned down offers of help from me so money is not the motive. She also works self employed full time, lives in the country - not a city. All in all, she's a decent woman - not after cash gifts or anything like that. We both have tried very hard to resist our feelings but failed, ha ha. Again, thankyou for your comments