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    our working wives

    we all know how hard our wives work and the long hours they also do, seems like they just cannot say no when the phone rings, WE NEED YOU, COME IN PLEASE,
    I know there are a few whose partners do extra hours and work silly hours too, but how many are there out there


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    Cor! I wish my wife could get the hours your Em gets!


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    in time Michael she may well, i always think you have to be in work to get a better offer of another job,
    I just hope she dont do to much to make her so tired, but we share the house work so there is not much to do in the house so that may help


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    my misses worked 12hrs Friday, 12 sat, she will work 12hrs today, and 9 to 5 the rest of next week
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    if Ems does a double shift, she leaves the house at 6.15 am and gets back in the house at 7,15 pm a very long day, would i do it , well somedays yes but not all the time


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    I suppose also when they do too much, after a while you begin to miss them!


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    i love my own time, whether i do something our just do nothing at all, its nice to sit and just relax, and have the laptop to myself too


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    Yes Steve I know where your coming from. Do you sometimes prepare food for her?


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    i try but the biggest problem with that is i go and pick her up from work and that could be me being out the house for upto 1 hour, so i hate leaving the oven on when i am not here, you may say cook it when i come in but thats around 7pm so a little late, but we get by and sometimes there is a treat for her,


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    My wife is working another 'long day' today.
    She's done long days since Wednesday.
    A long day is 7am - 2pm & 3pm - 10pm

    To be honest she's now getting very fed up and stressed with her employer.
    Why so many staff always off-sick? with no cover being organised.
    Why staff allowed leave when no additional cover organised.
    Why 'bank-staff' or those on relief contracts refuse to work
    Why a current 'ban' on agency relief

    For her it comes down to looking after the wellbeing of staff should be more important.
    She's begining to feel more of a resource than a person.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Terpe View Post
    My wife is working another 'long day' today.
    She's done long days since Wednesday.
    A long day is 7am - 2pm & 3pm - 10pm
    that's not a long day, that's taking the
    there should be laws against it ..
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    I used to work 36 hours per week but after I asked for an extra shift, they kept asking me to cover a shift. Now I'm working 48-60 hours per week.. Oh well, I'm happy bunny anyway every payday
    ''The grass may be greener on the other side of the fence but there still gonna be on it''


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    Quote Originally Posted by joebloggs View Post
    that's not a long day, that's taking the
    there should be laws against it ..
    She's begining to feel that too Joe.
    Don't get me wrong, she enjoys the job and has a conscience about taking care of the residents. But she's feeling stressed because she feels unable to make a stand.
    She's actually only on a 26 hours per week contract.
    Everyone who's so far made a stand has been told to lump it or off

    I've some ideas on how to stir it up. I've been researching


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    my misses use to get some sarcastic comments sometimes if she is late, they moan shes late and she should make up the time, i told her to write down when she can actually go home, when working the night shift she cant go until the next staff turn up, some times 30 mins late, they expect her to make time up but then expect her to work for nothing
    http://www.filipinouk.com/forum/image.php?type=sigpic&userid=870&dateline=1270312908


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    My hubby does work 4 shifts n me 3 shifts every week and sometimes I do work extra during school hours...its hard thou but we have too manage our sched.


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    My wife works quite long hours Monday to Friday but the money is good. We have a simple agreement that she may on the rare occasion help out a little extra midweek but she refuses any requests for help at the weekend. The weekend is our time together and we want to spend it together doing what we enjoy.
    To many employers take advantage of peoples good nature and their fear of losing the job and as a result family time can suffer.


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    I take it she does bank shifts for the NHS steve? Or is she with a agency?


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    Should our wives have to work? Thats the question. These days its not voluntary its a compulsory. This adds strain to relationships in my opinion.


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    Quote Originally Posted by andy222 View Post
    I take it she does bank shifts for the NHS steve? Or is she with a agency?
    NHS Andy


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    Quote Originally Posted by andy222 View Post
    Should our wives have to work? Thats the question. These days its not voluntry its a compulsary. This adds strain to relationships in my opinion.
    i think any wife/partner who comes from abroad wants to work and help contribute to the household bills, and to have that extra money in there purse too,
    We could managed on just the 1 wage but with Ems working we know we can have our plans sooner then later


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    I know mate i get about 6 txts a day asking if I want more work. Its always nice to know its there for the extra money though.. But there is a limit what you can do.


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    Quote Originally Posted by stevewool View Post
    i think any wife/partner who comes from abroad wants to work and help contribute to the household bills, and to have that extra money in there purse too,
    We could managed on just the 1 wage but with Ems working we know we can have our plans sooner then later
    Fair play to her mate. I dont think there are many who could live on 1 wage though.


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    Ems work is 7 days on 3 off 7 days on 4 off and so on, maybe 2 or 3 double shifts each week so it all goes into the pot, the great thing is her pension, and what they pay in too


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    Just watch what your doing with the pension steve. Get a forecast of how much it will pay out. You maybe better off investing it somewhere else.


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    Anyway going to have some lunch now and a bit of a kip. Off to do another night shift.


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    Quote Originally Posted by andy222 View Post
    Just watch what your doing with the pension steve. Get a forecast of how much it will pay out. You maybe better off investing it somewhere else.
    Retirement savings expected to run out after only 7 years on average

    http://www.hl.co.uk/news/articles/re...OBS&Override=1
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    Quote Originally Posted by andy222 View Post
    Just watch what your doing with the pension steve. Get a forecast of how much it will pay out. You maybe better off investing it somewhere else.
    Can you think of a better investment than an NHS pension?
    I think you'd be very very hard pushed.


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    Quote Originally Posted by joebloggs View Post
    Retirement savings expected to run out after only 7 years on average

    http://www.hl.co.uk/news/articles/re...OBS&Override=1
    well they say 19 years so i take that as living that long after finnishing work, i shall have to budget for that long then, like i have said many times before , we shall have savings and i know there will be enough to last alot longer then those years plus a income coming in too, that is before the pension comes into any cost of living,
    thats if it all comes into action that is


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    Quote Originally Posted by Terpe View Post
    Can you think of a better investment than an NHS pension?
    I think you'd be very very hard pushed.
    not at all if they contibute that amount and also what you put in yourself, all i can say is Ems has more in 5 months than i get in 12 months, so thats not bad me thinks


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    Quote Originally Posted by andy222 View Post
    Should our wives have to work? Thats the question.
    , Andy ... MINE doesn't! But then, of course, I'm long retired and, having lived alone for 17 years following the death of my first wife, I truly relish the fact that we're together 24/7. Likewise, with Myrna being an "only girl" her family circumstances meant she'd to balance a 22 years' teaching career with caring for her ailing mother back home in the Philippines. So it would be fair to say, we're BOTH content with the present arrangement.

    Financially ... we manage alright, because I'm in receipt of two pensions, i.e., the State Pension and a modest local government one from my former employers. Plus, we don't have the expense most other couples face in running a car.

    But, for those ladies married to younger men, I'd say that - unless they've plenty of stimulating "outside" interests and/or hobbies to fill their time while their husbands are at work - then, it's pretty well essential they find a job as soon as they can ... ... if only for the sake of preventing boredom setting in from being confined to the house all day.


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