Originally posted by manila bound@Oct 29 2005, 06:55 PM
:( Oh dear, after the highs of meeting, spending all my time with my love, then... THEN reality striked and our two weeks together came to an end, several tearful goodbye's later I'm on the plane bound for the UK... ****!

Damn how we miss each other!!!

Any tips on how to deal with the rather horrible feeling of missing a loved one, knowing you have to wait till april/may before you can be reunited(temporarily) once again? I'm sure many of you have gone through this before.
Its hard and I feel for you, just a year and 4 months ago My now Wife and I first had to be parted after a lovely two weeks. We are now together after what seemed an age but when we look on it now it seems just like yesterday since we first met.

Its tough being apart but the best way is to throw your self into working hard to bring you both together. Paperwork, working hard to save up Money etc.

Also you need to be strong as my Wife and I when disscussing this matter found that its even harder for your wife.

In theory you can jump on a plane tomorrow and fly over(money and time of work permitting) but your Girlfriend is unable to due to lack of visa however much money and spare time she has.

So you need to be strong and supportive to your Girlfriend.

I found researching the latest procedures both phill and UK(which seemed to constantly change), finding the cheapest ways of emailing,sending parcels, sending money etc. Finding out about faclities for your Girlfriend once she is in the UK(Shops,courses,jobs). This helped me to stay foccussed and get though the bad days.

I remeber you writing about your Girlfriend possibly taking an English Course or Caregivers course which will keep her occupied and feeling progress is being made. My Wife sometimes was frustrated due to what seemed to be yet another piece of paper we needed to obtain.

I wish you all the best and I'm sure you will soon be together