Limbowoman, I'm so sorry to hear you story and as an Englishman happily married to a Filipina I would just like to say, Please get out of your marriage, it will only get worse. You deserve more from your husband and he's treating you so very badly. I've seen this situation many times before with married English couples, it will not get better, he's not a good man. Read all the links that you have been given and start a better life for yourself.Take care.