Originally Posted by bigtombowski
Crab mentality describes a way of thinking best described by the phrase "if I can't have it, neither can you." The metaphor refers to a pot of crabs in which one tries to escape over the side, but is relentlessly pulled down by the others in the pot.
We cant blame the person who said that statement. He/she is entitled to his/her opinions.
as long as we know that our intentions for marrying a foreign national is purely love, let's be proud of it.
negative/derogatory statements like that should be IGNORE. there are just so many people who are jealous of what others have.
Quite right Mich, they are entitled to their opinion, and I bet the same person who said this statement also wouldn't have the slightest idea where the UK is (clue: its NOT in America)
As a few have on this thread have said, this looks like jealousy, and to be honest, we've all got better things to worry about, like Mark's fan club or what is Maria up to?
and to be honest, we've all got better things to worry about, like Mark's fan club or what is Maria up to?
YES, youre right! Now who's running for President in Mark's Fan Club???
Maria's at the Mall of Asia, she sent an sms... Whatever she's up to, she better tell us soon or else
Cheap?..LOL
Having a filipina partner is never been cheap just imagine the expenses and the amount of time they spent towards us. Travelling a thousand miles away is not cheap, getting married is not cheap, sorting a visa is not cheap, maintenance is not cheap, sorting everything is not cheap. What the hell!..And now im trying to contribute and helped to pay some bills.
Bwahaha..well thats my interpretation.
There is always death and taxes; however, death doesn't get worse every year.
CHEAP...???Cheap?..LOL
Having a filipina partner is never been cheap just imagine the expenses and the amount of time they spent towards us. Travelling a thousand miles away is not cheap, getting married is not cheap, sorting a visa is not cheap, maintenance is not cheap, sorting everything is not cheap. What the hell!..And now im trying to contribute and helped to pay some bills.
Bwahaha..well thats my interpretation.
The only "Cheap" thing so far was the visa, that was free of charge... But Jet's flight to Manila and the couple of days spent there weren't "cheap"...
Let's see....
15 months allowance for Jet...
3 visits in 18 months.
The wedding....
Brand new fridge freezer for the mother, because what they had I would have scrapped 10 years ago... (not asked for)
Brand new 15 hp engine for dad's fishing pumboat, because the old one had been rebored 3 times and kept breaking down 10 miles out at sea all the time... (not asked for) So prevention is better than cure...
Ticket to Manila + incidentals there...
Other bits and bobs... DHL, Islandrose, blah, blah...
One way ticket to Manchester...
And she never asked me for one penny..
On the home front....
Various document translations, to and from Italian...
A few trips to the Eyetie consulate in Manchester... Missing work...
New Leather sofa Corner Unit...
New carpets... living room, hallway, bathroom.
New bathroom furniture.
New Kitchen...
New pine sideboards in the living room..
New bedding, duvets, quilt covers, bed sheets..
New Towels
Today, I am off to get a new mattress and hire a carpet cleaner ...
In 12 days I will have to take a week's unpaid vacation, which I am not really entitled to, and cannot afford this time of the year...
I suppose I could take a couple of weeks on the sick, but too many people in the company know that Jet will be here soon, and won't look too good...
Don't talk to me about "cheap"....
I have done all this and more, willingly and knowingly, because I absolutely love and adore Jet.
everyone's opinion, I'm afraid, it's all true but this critism is not about spending money and what was given to a filipina and how expensive they are to maintain. the word CHEAP in this statement is best describes as a low grade citizen or a common people.
I think being CHEAP here doesnt refer to the materialistic HOW MUCH you've spent on your wives/gf or how much more dosh to splash on them.
I think CHEAP in this context is meant as the emotional degrading and belittling of filipinas.
And there i was thinking crab mentality was about lateral or sideways thinking
Crab mentality describes a way of thinking best described by the phrase "if I can't have it, neither can you." The metaphor refers to a pot of crabs in which one tries to escape over the side, but is relentlessly pulled down by the others in the pot.
And yes i agree - All filli people have a great aura of pride and dignity which can be very humbling at times. Cheap and simple are used in the wrong context by people who are ignorant of the people and their culture - give me the simplest, `cheapest` filli wfe or GF and i will be a very happy and proud man.
i know someone who is simple and "low maintenance" (if thats what you mean by "cheapest")...
you'll have the one your heart desiresjust wait for her...
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