Quote Originally Posted by SimonH View Post
Good advice, in my opinion I think many men fall 'in love' over the internet, maybe they're falling 'in love' with the idea same applies to women of a different culture filipino or not, they fall 'in love' with the idea of living in a western country and are therefore blinkered in some respects to the person they're falling 'in love' with.
Tiger's advice of spending time in each others country for a period of time is excellent, then each of you would know if you're in love with the person or the idea. At the end of the day, what's 6 months out of your life when you're planning on spending the rest of it together
....between meeting my wife online Dec 6 and marrying her 5 months later on June 26 I'd spent a total of 5 months with her....nearly losing my irreplaceable job in the process.

You are right about the implied craziness. Falling in love online ..being with her 2 to 3 weeks then marrying. ..then being consumed with visa applications etc The realisation doesn't hit until you got her here then finding out that actually, our relationship starts from now. .In the land of harsh reality. ..The cold light of day. .that's when you see the metal, what's one made of. ...The drama of visa applications fall into insignificance. ..This is where it begins, you start to find out whether you are compatible or not. ....by that time you are already committed. You have to make it work.