My wife wants me to leave our home.

[gWaPito]

This still all so difficult for me. I love my boys with all my being ..I see so much of Jane in them both so I can't bring myself to dislike Jane like i did because the boys are Jane. .I hope this is making sense to somebody. .It isn't to me ...even after all the hurt inflicted on me I can't feel hatred.

When James sings his Twinkle twinkle little star I hear Jane's voice coming through as well.

How do some divorced separated people hate each other so much yet would give their lives for the children they brought into this world who are essentially the waring parents.
It's beyond me ....you would of thought if both loved their children as much as they do, they would make a way to make thinks right whatever either have done. ..We don't suffer the children! !.....Unfortunately this takes 2 to make this happen.

[marksroomspain]

This still all so difficult for me. I love my boys with all my being ..I see so much of Jane in them both so I can't bring myself to dislike Jane like i did because the boys are Jane. .I hope this is making sense to somebody. .It isn't to me ...even after all the hurt inflicted on me I can't feel hatred.

When James sings his Twinkle twinkle little star I hear Jane's voice coming through as well.

How do some divorced separated people hate each other so much yet would give their lives for the children they brought into this world who are essentially the waring parents.
It's beyond me ....you would of thought if both loved their children as much as they do, they would make a way to make thinks right whatever either have done. ..We don't suffer the children! !.....Unfortunately this takes 2 to make this happen.

Fully understand what your saying Gwaps its that sort of thing when you look at the boys you see her in them but not that hatred of her but the joy of the two little miracles that were born from you both.

That link will always be there and to hate only destroys any happiness that these two little guys deserve.

They are a real credit to you and I only hope things can be amicable in the future for you both.

BTW those pics lol your little boys look like twins absolutely adorable.

All the best buddy for the future your friend Mark...

[gWaPito]

Fully understand what your saying Gwaps its that sort of thing when you look at the boys you see her in them but not that hatred of her but the joy of the two little miracles that were born from you both.

That link will always be there and to hate only destroys any happiness that these two little guys deserve.

They are a real credit to you and I only hope things can be amicable in the future for you both.

BTW those pics lol your little boys look like twins absolutely adorable.

All the best buddy for the future your friend Mark...

Since having the boys, Mark..I can't find it within me to hate her...This may seen strange to some...Even on our day in court, while my solicitor and daughter were whooping it up after the judge's verdict, I couldn't ....I could sense Jane was hurt by the outcome, all i felt was sorrow..what the hell do you make of that????....Here was a woman who for the previous 3 months tried to bury me without trace yet, I felt compassion for her at the end....She could of been right, I may of needed my head felt

I'm not getting carried away with this...what happened this weekend doesn't mean it's going to be the same every weekend. What can't be reversed is the boys memory of me any more....no more near 90 day separations!

[stevewool]

I could sense Jane was hurt by the outcome, all i felt was sorrow..what the hell do you make of that????....Here was a woman who for the previous 3 months tried to bury me without trace yet, I felt compassion for her at the end

here proves to all around you that you are a good man, a person with compassion

[SimonH]

here proves to all around you that you are a good man, a person with compassion

My thoughts exactly, very well said

[grahamw48]

here proves to all around you that you are a good man, a person with compassion

I agree Steve...and so much better for the children when the parents show respect for one another, even though they're not actually 'together' anymore.

Something I always made sure of where my boy was concerned (and still do).