My wife wants me to leave our home.

[Pete/London]

Quote from a friend of ours:
"when the money goes, so does the Filipina"

Part of that relates to a lot of marriages no matter where your partner comes from.
"Money goes out the door, Love goes out the window"

Lack of money can put a strain on marriage and show up any incompatibilities.

[Arthur Little]

Thanks Arthur

... pleasure, mate. Thank you for the rep ... much appreciated.

[Arthur Little]

Part of that relates to a lot of marriages no matter where your partner comes from.

"Money goes out the door, Love goes out the window"

Lack of money can put a strain on marriage and show up any incompatibilities.

Sadly, so true ... nowadays, especially ... ... more's the pity!

[Ako Si Jamie]

Got a couple of bad apples here in Swindon as well

Sounds like a West Country thing!

I blame the cider!

[stevewool]

blame it on what you want, but its a partnership, you both have to work at it to keep it alive, we all can say its this and that what caused the breakdown of any relationship, but until you are in it and been through it, you cant say, but in time you do realize it takes the both of you to wreck the marriage too

[stevewool]

there has been a few bad thoughts on blaming the filipina lady for the break up of any relationship just lately,and i am sure there are a few too, but remember there is also the man that may find something he thinks is better too,
Mark this is not aimed at you, i and others feel the hurt you must have felt, but for the others who are making the remarks,

[malditako]

Quote from a friend of ours:

i am afraid this not does not apply at least to me

[malditako]

thanks for all the rep. really appreciated.

[Neu75]

What I don't understand about all this is the worrying possibility of the wife taking the British born children back to the Philippines.
Can a wife take them out of the country and, apart from the husband hiding the kids passports, how can he make sure the kids will remain in the UK?
Gwapito's marriage seems completely over but if she has ILR and a British passport she will be able to leave with them and come back whenever she wants.
He will lose out as he will not see the kids for a long time.

[grahamw48]

Good point.

Yes, she can take them out of the country.

That's why when my ex and I fell out, the first thing I did was to go down to the court with my solicitor to have a court order signed by a Judge, forbidding his mother from taking him out of the country.

Very straightforward, and cost me about £120. I still hid his passport though.

[grahamw48]

My brother works at the Foreign Office, and he's told me some pretty scary stories about British kids being taken out of the country, never to be seen again, or virtually impossible to get back from the partner who's taken them.

[Neu75]

Can I ask you why you needed to spend money if the passport was hidden?

[SimonH]

Can I ask you why you needed to spend money if the passport was hidden?

Fairly easy to get a replacement passport these days, say for example it was 'lost' or maybe the dog ate it

[Michael Parnham]

I hope no one is offended by what I say but, this thread has been a really brilliant and extremely informative and thanks to Mark it has also opened people eyes to the fact that anything can happen within a relationship of short or long standing. It must be pointed out that what happened to Mark was not motivated by money and I hope that anyone reading this thread will not become paranoid because the paranoia can be the reason to start a relationship to break down. I'm sure there are some members like myself who have smaller incomes, let us reassure those that may have doubts about there filipino wife's or partners not to worry too much because the lady from the Philippines can and is very supportive if her man shows the love and respect she deserves!

[Neu75]

I hope no one is offended by what I say but, this thread has been a really brilliant and extremely informative and thanks to Mark it has also opened people eyes to the fact that anything can happen within a relationship of short or long standing. It must be pointed out that what happened to Mark was not motivated by money and I hope that anyone reading this thread will not become paranoid because the paranoia can be the reason to start a relationship to break down. I'm sure there are some members like myself who have smaller incomes, let us reassure those that may have doubts about there filipino wife's or partners not to worry too much because the lady from the Philippines can and is very supportive if her man shows the love and respect she deserves!

Michael, unfortunately there are lots of Fil-Brit, Fil-Am relationships that fail and with the mother from another country, fathers should rightly be very worried.

[jake]

I'm sure there are some members like myself who have smaller incomes, let us reassure those that may have doubts about there filipino wife's or partners not to worry too much because the lady from the Philippines can and is very supportive if her man shows the love and respect she deserves!

I agree

[joebloggs]

how many fail, and whats do you class as a fail? after 1 yr, 5yrs or 10yrs ?

from what i can recall i only know of a handful on here that didn't work out, obviously there are more, as not everyone is going to put on a public forum their marriage has ended, but i think most seem to work out

[gWaPito]

Sounds like a West Country thing!

I blame the cider!

Glad you picked up on that Jamie...I thought another funny wasted

[gWaPito]

how many fail, and whats do you class as a fail? after 1 yr, 5yrs or 10yrs ?

from what i can recall i only know of a handful on here that didn't work out, obviously there are more, as not everyone is going to put on a public forum their marriage has ended, but i think most seem to work out

Until death do us part Joe ..........My first marriage lasted 25 years..ending in divorce..Hardly a success ...Although we are on talking and texting terms, thanks to the kids we had together....without them, I daresay we would of lost all connection with each other

[gWaPito]

I hope no one is offended by what I say but, this thread has been a really brilliant and extremely informative and thanks to Mark it has also opened peoples' eyes to the fact that anything can happen within a relationship of short or long standing. Let us reassure those that may have doubts about there filipino wife's or partners not to worry too much because the lady from the Philippines can and is very supportive if her man shows the love and respect she deserves!

I'm not offended Michael ..I appreciate your input, in fact I appreciate all who is having a say here, be it positive or negative ..It shows us for what we are

I agree, the lady from the Philippines can be very supportive but, can also be the opposite..like ANY relationship, It's a gamble, especially when you've got all your cards spread face up all over the table....I went into mine being very supportive and loving, more so than to anybody else I've known and it still wasn't enough............believe me, I gave her all and more than what she deserved

Nothing is guaranteed but, stats show (it's been pointed out on here a while back ) a relationship with a Filipino will outlast a western partnership

It's a shame I married a couple of duds

[Neu75]

I know a lot of Filipinos where I live and there have been many failed marriages.
One lady told me she doesn't want to mix with others as there is too much chissmiss and rivalry.
Seems to me that the Asian woman becomes very western after years here.
What is more important in Gwapito's situation is the children and how to stop them being taken away to Philippines.

[grahamw48]

.
One lady told me she doesn't want to mix with others as there is too much chissmiss and rivalry.

That is something that I've heard many times too.

The most enduring relationships I've come across (and the ladies seemingly least affected by 'Westernisation') are those who've already been together a long time overseas.

[Michael Parnham]

I'm not offended Michael ..I appreciate your input, in fact I appreciate all who is having a say here, be it positive or negative ..It shows us for what we are

I agree, the lady from the Philippines can be very supportive but, can also be the opposite..like ANY relationship, It's a gamble, especially when you've got all your cards spread face up all over the table....I went into mine being very supportive and loving, more so than to anybody else I've known and it still wasn't enough............believe me, I gave her all and more than what she deserved

Nothing is guaranteed but, stats show (it's been pointed out on here a while back ) a relationship with a Filipino will outlast a western partnership

It's a shame I married a couple of duds

I understand where you are coming from Mark, also thank you for your honesty!

[gWaPito]

Good point.

Yes, she can take them out of the country.

That's why when my ex and I fell out, the first thing I did was to go down to the court with my solicitor to have a court order signed by a Judge, forbidding his mother from taking him out of the country.

Very straightforward, and cost me about £120. I still hid his passport though.

Not so straightforward now Graham. .The Judge wouldn't issue the injunction no matter how much I was prepared to pay.

It's a cost of £500 plus solicitor fees so, you could round it off to a grand. According to the Judge, their was no risk her leaving the UK because of what she's being dished up by the Government.

Apparently there's serious ramifications on the party who receives the injunction. I didn't enquire what they were. That would of cost me another day's pay.

[Michael Parnham]

I agree

Thanks Jake!

[grahamw48]

Not so straightforward now Graham. .The judge wouldn't issue the injunction no matter how much I was prepared to pay. It's a cost of £500 plus solicitor fees so, you could round it off to a grand. According to the judge, their was no risk her leaving the UK because of what she's being dished up by the Government.

Apparently there's serious ramifications on the party who receives the injunction. I didn't enquire what they were. That would of cost me another day's pay.

Maybe we're talking about two different things here Mark....plus two different Judges and two different sets of circumstances.

[gWaPito]

What is more important in Gwapios situation is the children and how to stop them being taken away to Philippines.

I have to rely on her abiding with the law ( Judge turn't down my injunction application but still took the £500!! ) My solicitor said that if she left the country without first seeking my permission, It would be treated as child aduction...Well Whooppee!!!

Without any agreement with The Philippines concerning partners illegally taking children abroad, It'll be up to muggins here to shell out again for solicitors etc............Talk about money for old rope

[tiger31]

Part of that relates to a lot of marriages no matter where your partner comes from.
"Money goes out the door, Love goes out the window"

Lack of money can put a strain on marriage and show up any incompatibilities.

is that why for richer or poorer are not in the philippino wedding vows lol

[tiger31]

I believe your relationship / marriage would last longer if you stayed in the philippines .Its far easier to get rid of your ex partner in the west .marrying someone from a different culture is I believe a bit more challenging for all sorts of reasons .Its all about being patient with each others culture and trying to understand them before you speak or make decisions .philippinas can and do make excellent partners if you treat and show them respect they will look after you good and proper .but cross them and out comes the BOLO lol

[stevewool]

who ever you are thanks for the rep,