My wife wants me to leave our home.

[SimonH]

I believe your relationship / marriage would last longer if you stayed in the philippines .Its far easier to get rid of your ex partner in the west .marrying someone from a different culture is I believe a bit more challenging for all sorts of reasons .Its all about being patient with each others culture and trying to understand them before you speak or make decisions .philippinas can and do make excellent partners if you treat and show them respect they will look after you good and proper .but cross them and out comes the BOLO lol

Good advice, in my opinion I think many men fall 'in love' over the internet, maybe they're falling 'in love' with the idea same applies to women of a different culture filipino or not, they fall 'in love' with the idea of living in a western country and are therefore blinkered in some respects to the person they're falling 'in love' with.
Tiger's advice of spending time in each others country for a period of time is excellent, then each of you would know if you're in love with the person or the idea. At the end of the day, what's 6 months out of your life when you're planning on spending the rest of it together

[tiger31]

Good advice, in my opinion I think many men fall 'in love' over the internet, maybe they're falling 'in love' with the idea same applies to women of a different culture filipino or not, they fall 'in love' with the idea of living in a western country and are therefore blinkered in some respects to the person they're falling 'in love' with.
Tiger's advise of spending time in each others country for a period of time is excellent, then each of you would know if you're in love with the person or the idea. At the end of the day, what's 6 months out of your life when you're planning on spending the rest of it together

very true I think that the ones who go over for a say a 3 week holiday meet someone then bring them back are more likely to split than those who actually live in their partners country for a while to get to know that person first .This is exactly what I did but not everyone can afford to do that so its a risk i,m just lucky that I was able to live here for comin up for 3 years so I can safely say I know how she ticks lol and she knows how I tick ( dominate ) hahaha jokin .now ive done the first part now ive got to bring her back at some stage and see how she ticks in the u.k .

[gWaPito]

very true I think that the ones who go over for a say a 3 week holiday meet someone then bring them back are more likely to split than those who actually live in their partners country for a while to get to know that person first .This is exactly what I did but not everyone can afford to do that so its a risk i,m just lucky that I was able to live here for comin up for 3 years so I can safely say I know how she ticks lol and she knows how I tick ( dominate ) hahaha jokin .now ive done the first part now ive got to bring her back at some stage and see how she ticks in the u.k .

Brief responses sorry, back at work. ..you've done it the right way Brian. ..but, like you said, most can't take 3 years out. ...when you think about, if I had done the same, it would of saved me a whole heap of grief.

[gWaPito]

Good advice, in my opinion I think many men fall 'in love' over the internet, maybe they're falling 'in love' with the idea same applies to women of a different culture filipino or not, they fall 'in love' with the idea of living in a western country and are therefore blinkered in some respects to the person they're falling 'in love' with.
Tiger's advice of spending time in each others country for a period of time is excellent, then each of you would know if you're in love with the person or the idea. At the end of the day, what's 6 months out of your life when you're planning on spending the rest of it together

....between meeting my wife online Dec 6 and marrying her 5 months later on June 26 I'd spent a total of 5 months with her....nearly losing my irreplaceable job in the process.

You are right about the implied craziness. Falling in love online ..being with her 2 to 3 weeks then marrying. ..then being consumed with visa applications etc The realisation doesn't hit until you got her here then finding out that actually, our relationship starts from now. .In the land of harsh reality. ..The cold light of day. .that's when you see the metal, what's one made of. ...The drama of visa applications fall into insignificance. ..This is where it begins, you start to find out whether you are compatible or not. ....by that time you are already committed. You have to make it work.