vasectomy

[Arthur Little]

As most regulars here know, I was widowed at the age of 47. Eventually, in my early 50s, I plucked up the courage to go out to 'Singles Nights' ... a brave new venture for someone whose last encounter with a dance floor (as a "free agent") had been nearly three decades earlier. Not unnaturally, my initial feelings were akin to those of an embarrassed teenager by the time the hotel receptionist led me through to the venue where that particular night's festivities were to take place.

As it happened, my anxiety was soon quelled on being introduced to a couple of divorced guys ... Frank & Gordon who befriended me. And thus began an exciting new chapter in my life.

Anyway, the three of us became almost inseparable most weekends - especially on Sunday evenings - when we would "go clubbing" to loads of other venues in towns and cities further afield ... usually conveyed by there by Frank, an off-duty taxicab owner.

Now Frank was a chatty bloke (ask Les ... it's
an "occupational hazard" with taxi drivers Les, but in my experience it's true!). Often, the topic of conversation would resort to discussions on men's issues during our journeys. And, on one such occasion, Frank revealed he'd had "the snip". Apparently Gordon had intended having it done also, but "chickened out" in advance.

Alas Frank died very suddenly of a heart attack - standing upright still clutching the lawnmower while cutting his grass (nothing to do with his vasectomy, I hasten to add!) one Sunday afternoon in the Autumn of 2002 - a month shy of retirement ... though I still keep in touch with Gordon socially for the [very] occasional pub visit.

[Steve.r]

No one heard of safe sex

I don't think and have never considered a vasectomy after having children. I really don't see the reason for it, specially when there are alternatives to invasive surgery.

[Arthur Little]

I really don't see the reason for it, specially when there are alternatives to invasive surgery.

, Steve ... NOR do I !

[gWaPito]

No one heard of safe sex

I don't think and have never considered a vasectomy after having children. I really don't see the reason for it, specially when there are alternatives to invasive surgery.

Totally agree. .my wife's idea of contraception is not at all. .saving a bundle on condoms, annoying frequent showers and such like...Once a week is enough, whether I need it or not.

On the other hand, for the sake of a harmonious, enduring long loving relationship, I would absolutely NOT recommend this method of contraception.

Cheers
Mark

[Michael Parnham]

As most regulars here know, I was widowed at the age of 47. Eventually, in my early 50s, I plucked up the courage to go out to 'Singles Nights' ... a brave new venture for someone whose last encounter with a dance floor (as a "free agent") had been nearly three decades earlier. Not unnaturally, my initial feelings were akin to those of an embarrassed teenager by the time the hotel receptionist led me through to the venue where that particular night's festivities were to take place.

As it happened, my anxiety was soon quelled on being introduced to a couple of divorced guys ... Frank & Gordon who befriended me. And thus began an exciting new chapter in my life.

Anyway, the three of us became almost inseparable most weekends - especially on Sunday evenings - when we would "go clubbing" to loads of other venues in towns and cities further afield ... usually conveyed by there by Frank, an off-duty taxicab owner.

Now Frank was a chatty bloke (ask Les ... it's
an "occupational hazard" with taxi drivers Les, but in my experience it's true!). Often, the topic of conversation would resort to discussions on men's issues during our journeys. And, on one such occasion, Frank revealed he'd had "the snip". Apparently Gordon had intended having it done also, but "chickened out" in advance.

Alas Frank died very suddenly of a heart attack - standing upright still clutching the lawnmower while cutting his grass (nothing to do with his vasectomy, I hasten to add!) one Sunday afternoon in the Autumn of 2002 - a month shy of retirement ... though I still keep in touch with Gordon socially for the [very] occasional pub visit.

What an interesting story Arthur

[grahamw48]

What an interesting story Arthur

Yes, I enjoyed reading about Arthur and his mates clubbing.

Bit of a dark horse it seems, our Arthur.

[Arthur Little]

Yes, I enjoyed reading about Arthur and his mates clubbing.

Thanks, Graham ... I'm glad you enjoyed "delving into" my "murky" past. Yes, those were the days!!! However, the emphasis here is on the word "were" ... because, much as I relished re~living my teenage years in my fifties [at the time] I certainly had my share of "ups and downs" romantically! What 'singleton' doesn't? (I'm not talking about this > side of things either, but rather, the emotional fallout!) e.g., at one stage, I even stupidly got engaged (for all of a fortnight! ) to a 41-yr-old when I was 53. Trouble was, her jealous nature impacted on her basic insecurities ... for instance, she repeatedly accused me of fancying some of her considerably younger friends. ... as IF!

Anyhow ... I learned a few hard lessons - notably ... that good looks are purely superficial ... that what, in fact, really counts is a woman's inner beauty ... i.e., her personality.

Thankfully, I'm once again in the fortunate position of being very happily married to a woman who ticks all the boxes that ANY man could wish for; therefore, there's no way I'd ever want to return to the lifestyle I've just described.

Bit of a dark horse it seems, our Arthur.

Only temporarily ... well ... 17 years actually! Luckily for me, my "long~suffering" mum (who was still alive at the time) never knew the half of what her "wayward" elder son got up to during that interlude between his two marriages.

[Arthur Little]

I even stupidly got engaged (for all of a fortnight! ) to a 41-yr-old when I was 53. Trouble was, her jealous nature impacted on her basic insecurities ... for instance, she repeatedly accused me of fancying some of her considerably younger friends. ... as IF!

Heather, she was called. Now I KNOW the answer to the about the homosexual Highlander who ...

... preferred peat to heather!

[Arthur Little]

What an interesting story Arthur

Thanks, Michael.

I have never felt any "compelling urge" to undergo the procedure. And, of course, having since been diagnosed with diabetes, I no longer see the "point", in a manner of speaking.

[stevewool]

As most regulars here know, I was widowed at the age of 47. Eventually, in my early 50s, I plucked up the courage to go out to 'Singles Nights' ... a brave new venture for someone whose last encounter with a dance floor (as a "free agent") had been nearly three decades earlier. Not unnaturally, my initial feelings were akin to those of an embarrassed teenager by the time the hotel receptionist led me through to the venue where that particular night's festivities were to take place.

As it happened, my anxiety was soon quelled on being introduced to a couple of divorced guys ... Frank & Gordon who befriended me. And thus began an exciting new chapter in my life.

Anyway, the three of us became almost inseparable most weekends - especially on Sunday evenings - when we would "go clubbing" to loads of other venues in towns and cities further afield ... usually conveyed by there by Frank, an off-duty taxicab owner.

Now Frank was a chatty bloke (ask Les ... it's
an "occupational hazard" with taxi drivers Les, but in my experience it's true!). Often, the topic of conversation would resort to discussions on men's issues during our journeys. And, on one such occasion, Frank revealed he'd had "the snip". Apparently Gordon had intended having it done also, but "chickened out" in advance.

Alas Frank died very suddenly of a heart attack - standing upright still clutching the lawnmower while cutting his grass (nothing to do with his vasectomy, I hasten to add!) one Sunday afternoon in the Autumn of 2002 - a month shy of retirement ... though I still keep in touch with Gordon socially for the [very] occasional pub visit.

most people do not realize it is very frightning walking into a strange bar when you are alone , i dont like it too, all ways nice when you can see someone you know, a nice little snippit to your past Arthur, thankyou

[Steve.r]

a nice little snippit