ok, this is going one of two ways:

1, the OP says sorry for being abusive to long standing members and lightens up as Arthur has already said.

2, I keep my finger poised on the big red button.

The choice is yours.

We are a friendly bunch here and maybe some prior reading of different forums would have helped you understand how life is within the forum. We have a diverse membership, vast experiences and we help hundreds of people through their quest to getting their loved ones here to our shores.
Along with the help is a very strong sense of humour that is often needed when times get tough for people. It can be downright funny, gentle joshing or rather sarcastic. If you didn't understand this, then again you need to lighten up.

Your choice.....