Love - what is it? How do you describe it?

[Shifty-Sidney]

Hi all,
This may appear like an odd thread but i have been wondering what love is and how best to describe it?
You have love for family members and even animals, but love for your chosen partner is different - this love has no boundaries, no colour, no religion, no anything - yet it is powerful enough to stop a person and leave them for dead.
Why are we afected like this? - do we ask for this to happen? - do we need to be dependant on someone else? What are the signs to say you are in love? how do you know this is love or just lust or a desire?
And finally - i challenge anyone to describe how they feel when they are in love

[anya]

"if you were all alone in the universewith no one to talk to, no one with which to share the beauty of the stars, to laugh with, to touch, what would be your purpose in life? it is other life, it is love, which gives your life meaning. this is harmony, we must discover the joy of each other, the joy of challenge, and the joy of growth"

[anya]

"if you were all alone in the universe with no one to talk to, no one with which to share the beauty of the stars, to laugh with, to touch, what would be your purpose in life? it is other life, it is love, which gives your life meaning. this is harmony, we must discover the joy of each other, the joy of challenge, and the joy of growth"

[purplealien]

Interesting question Mark, very true about it being different for a partner. I imagine that there may be some biological need to find someone to pair with, but so many different feelings are mixed up in there somewhere. I think its true to say, you don't miss something until its gone. I know I can deal with not seeing my friends and family for quite a while, but not my gf.

[anya]

Hi all,
This may appear like an odd thread but i have been wondering what love is and how best to describe it?
You have love for family members and even animals, but love for your chosen partner is different - this love has no boundaries, no colour, no religion, no anything - yet it is powerful enough to stop a person and leave them for dead.
Why are we afected like this? - do we ask for this to happen? - do we need to be dependant on someone else? What are the signs to say you are in love? how do you know this is love or just lust or a desire?
And finally - i challenge anyone to describe how they feel when they are in love

err Mr. Barnsley-Mark, that's a lot of qu... love is love is love... We just knew it is love when it hits us.

[charlwill]

Hi Mark, this is defintion of love.

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.

[yhilres]

Hi all,
This may appear like an odd thread but i have been wondering what love is and how best to describe it?
You have love for family members and even animals, but love for your chosen partner is different - this love has no boundaries, no colour, no religion, no anything - yet it is powerful enough to stop a person and leave them for dead.
Why are we afected like this? - do we ask for this to happen? - do we need to be dependant on someone else? What are the signs to say you are in love? how do you know this is love or just lust or a desire?
And finally - i challenge anyone to describe how they feel when they are in love

Mark, r u n love now? I think i kno the lucky girl.

Anyway, you're asking 'bout what love is? I think if you have it (love), you don't need to have anything else. If you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have...

But the best to describe love, is ds: Love is like a bubble gum, kung mopilit makabuang(ask maria to translate this)

[Shifty-Sidney]

Mark, r u n love now? I think i kno the lucky girl.

Anyway, you're asking 'bout what love is? I think if you have it (love), you don't need to have anything else. If you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have...

But the best to describe love, is ds: Love is like a bubble gum, kung mopilit makabuang(ask maria to translate this)

- Right, just to set matters straight - no i am not in love and neither am i close to it. I was only asking because i this forum is full of caring people who are all somewhat more tyhan your avaerage `person on the street` - we are all here because we have or want something more than just sex and we are prepared to wait and fight to get it.

Why?? - why do we put ourselves through the heartache and pain and waiting and problems and visa and phone calls and...and......and...
when we could be with the woman or man down the road when we want.

This is why i was asking what love is and why we want it so much?

[Mich]

- Right, just to set matters straight - no i am not in love and neither am i close to it. I was only asking because i this forum is full of caring people who are all somewhat more tyhan your avaerage `person on the street` - we are all here because we have or want something more than just sex and we are prepared to wait and fight to get it.

Why?? - why do we put ourselves through the heartache and pain and waiting and problems and visa and phone calls and...and......and...
when we could be with the woman or man down the road when we want.

This is why i was asking what love is and why we want it so much?

a friend once told me something about love, and maybe he could be right. he said... love is used by people to get what they want... women want security and assurance and men want sex. both use love to get these things.

love and cynicism... not a good cocktail!

[Paul&Jesse]

a friend once told me something about love, and maybe he could be right. he said... love is used by people to get what they want... women want security and assurance and men want sex. both use love to get these things.

love and cynicism... not a good cocktail!

The word “Cynic / cynicism” comes from Ancient Greek and means ‘doglike’ and was used to describe the behaviour of the philosopher Diogenes.

Thus be careful when using the words sex and cynicism in the same sentence!

[yhilres]

love always has its errors, sometimes we try to refresh then realize it's best to shut down...but the hardest part is to 'restart' your life and 'reformat' your heart.

[Sailor_JT]

For me love is quite simple, it's wanting someone else's happiness more then your own, you want that person to be happy no matter what it takes to make them happy, so the key is giving and for me it's giving without limits, the only question to ask is "will it make you happy" if the answer is "yes" then it's done, love, no if's , no but's , no maybe's, for as long as you live

[Maria_2300]

And finally - i challenge anyone to describe how they feel when they are in love

Being in love is when you can't live without your partner. Life is empty, not complete, unfulfilled without him/her by your side and when you sleep in the evening he/she is the last one in your mind and the one you think of when you open your eyes in the morning and you will have a beautiful smile in your heart the rest of the day .

[charlwill]

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more."

[yhilres]

when you sleep in the evening he/she is the last one in your mind and the one you think of when you open your eyes in the morning and you will have a beautiful smile in your heart the rest of the day .

tya, i think i know who you're talking about

[Maria_2300]

tya, i think i know who you're talking about

... i surrender

[yhilres]

... i surrender

yehey!!! celebration!!!

[Alan]

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."
- Woody Allen



Al.

[KeithD]

This may appear like an odd thread but i have been wondering what love is and how best to describe it?

This is easy.

When a bookmaker gives you lots of .....that's love

[Alan]

This is easy.

When a bookmaker gives you lots of .....that's love

I must love my bookie then.

Al.

[cryingbaby]

Well, as you can imagine, this also happens to be one of the most difficult questions to answer! Love is such a strange, wonderful thing that nobody really has codified what it is yet. And to further complicate matters, there are so many different kinds of love: the love you feel for a friend, a family member, a sport or even a pet. This is such a crazy emotion that there is absolutely no way that I can definitively answer how you know it is love… but I am going to give it a try

Now, in order to find out if you love someone, the basic place to start would be to ask yourself, do you want to be with them? If the answer to that question is no, then it really can't be love. When you love someone, you want to be with them. Not just be with them, but share everything with them. You have a great day at work and want to rush home and tell them every wonderful thing that has happened. You feel excited at the prospect of just being in their company, just being close to them isn't enough, you want to be a part of them, a part of their life forever. You can't stand the thought of being away from them yet, when you are, you still feel that ever-present bond that ties you together wherever you go. You can almost feel what they are feeling. You feel like, with a little bit of effort, you can see what they are seeing and think what they are thinking. It is almost as if you both can occupy each other's bodies with complete trust and harmony. That to me is love.

Now, on the other side of the spectrum, there are a host of emotions that people confuse with love. One of the most common is lust. There is a difference between wanting to sleep with someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone.

Being overly dependent on the other person is also not a part of love. Some people fall into the trap of thinking they love someone just because they are afraid to be alone. They have become dependent on the other person for so much that they don't know how to make it on their own, or they would much rather be with someone than no-one.

This leads to the old cliché, in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself. Well, we've all heard that before, but what does it really mean? It means that you have to be confident in your own ability and your own judgement. You really have to like yourself and know what you have to offer another person. There is no way that you can love another person if you are so stuck in your own hang-ups that you bow down and propitiate to the other person. That is, you do anything they ask and agree with everything they say out of fear that they will love you less because you don't do those things.

Basically, the question of whether or not you are in love with someone is pretty cut and dry: you either are or you aren't… and deep down, you know the answer. You just have to trust yourself to recognize it.

[Alan]

OK - a serious response from me.

I cannot stop thinking about Hanna. We speak EVERY day on YM. Despite all my problems at the moment I can smile when I think of her.

I am TRULY in love.

Al.

[theresa]

When you feel complete when your together, thats in love. Despite of problems.
you still laugh together, smile at each other hold hands when your walking, talk and share anything. enjoy each others company. never sleep without saying the words "I Love you". Love is such a nice feeling.
Love binds 2 people in a long distance relationship.

[purplealien]

Have you been down my road !!!

[Pepe n Pilar]

"There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness"
Nietzsche
I'm thinking of how can i tell how am i if i'm in love.....I might consume the whole space in here.....

[mach]

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (New International Version)

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

[KeithD]

USA Love:
Shoot first, ask questions later

[Mich]

USA Love:
Shoot first, ask questions later

[LEAHnew]

Love is MAGIC coz It Bounds 2 people from thousand miles away.

Love affects human behavior…
can’t sleep proper…can’t eat that much…forgot many things… forgot what’s in order…

Love sometimes deceiving …it made us blind …..but in order to conquer negative act… love teaches us in positive ways like..being understanding, patience, loyal, faithful and A better person from the experience we had from love.....
And lastly LOVE is the reason why I live….

[eljean]

Love is like a rose you cannot appreciate its beauty without accepting its thorns...