Well i am sorry if my post ruffled a few feathers but i stand by my post
Of course there will always be a "few" relationships where living with the in laws worked out ok
But I feel these relationships are very much in the minority
I dont blame the wives in all of this but the family members who will expect to be provided for
If anything i actually feel sorry for the wives because they are the ones who are normally caught
up in the middle of all of this
A loving husband on one side and a family with needs on the other

I do have personal reasons for these views as well
When i had a condo in pasig and my x gf family members came to visit i always had problems
Apart from eating everything in my condo they would then have the cheek to ask for the taxi fare home
One of them always had some kind of forthcoming medical condition that needed to be funded
Any kind of excuse was used to try and get some money out of me
The loans that never get repaid = never any intention of repaying

I have discussed this with many x pats over there and this kind of thing with the family is very much the norm
Not that i had met a particularly bad Pinoy family

My x pat friends in Makati will allow their wives to visit their families any time they want to
So i dont believe they are bullies at all
They love their wives and hope to stay with them so keeping the family at bay stops all the
associated problems before they even start