another thing the fact that my missus don,t want me to go out on my own says a lot to me and no its not because she worried I find another girl its because she don,t trust her own country folk .Its just not safe to wander off on your own in parts of the country life is very cheap here and if some local spots an opportunity they will go for it .I don,t want this thread turned into a battle ground i,m just giving my on the ground opinion of being here for 3 years .The fact that I still can,t speak the lingo either makes me feel isolated too .Since moving here in february to bacolod I have not even met another foreigner even to strike up a conversation with apart from one irish guy who pulled up in a tricycle steaming with a bottle of whisky sticking out his shorts .I thought if he is the example Filipinos see,s no wonder they don,t want to mix with us .but overall the Filipinos i,ve met have been friendly towards me I always wave at them if they are smiling the kids crack me up all the time they just stare at you like your from planet zogg lol .when I return to u.k i,ll see how I feel about my situation at least I have the choice to return ,which is something i,ve stated before think long and hard before you sell up its a big decision to make i,m so glad I kept my house phew .