I think im ready to come back

[stevie c]

Hi all sorry for the long absence from the forum
But i have had a devastating death in my family it has destroyed me i have been of work for 4 months & i am currently under the doctor for depression
I so wanted to come on the forum but could not talk to anyone about my loss as i was just so depressed & upset
Some of you know me & florsel had a vacation to the phils in april / may the death in my family happened two days after we returned to the uk so once again i apologise for not being on the forum but i hope you all understand why
Many thanks stevie c & Florsel

[grahamw48]

Oh, so sorry to hear of your loss Stevie.

It will take time, but things will come right for you again.

There are people on here (including myself) who have gone through similar traumas, and you know we're always here when you need a chat or to get anything off your chest.

Wishing you and Florsel all the best.

[Terpe]

Welcome back Stevie, so sorry to learn about those events and your health issues.

I can fully understand how you may be feeling as both Carina and me have also been impacted in similar ways during 2012

Took me almost a year to get back but I'm not the same person still.

Take your time Stevie and only share what you feel comfortable with.
All your friends are here to support whenever you need it.

I did wonder why you hadn't called.

Take care you both, great to see you back here again.

I hope you and Florsel are both OK

[stevie c]

Hi Graham thanks very much for the support to be honest im still in bits its just unbelievable that someone can be taken away at only 20 yrs of age i feel empty but have to carry in for my beautuful wife florsel
But i think the more i try to get back to some normality the pain will ease

[stevie c]

Many thanks Peter im slowly improving but still have a way to go but im sure being speaking to friends on the forum will help
Florsel is fine peter but obviously very worried for me but as i said to her im determined to get back to my old self

[Trefor]

Welcome back Stevie.

There is nothing like reading about other's problems to make you feel better

[stevie c]

Welcome back Stevie.

There is nothing like reading about other's problems to make you feel better

Many thanks Trefor

[Terpe]

Are you back at work now Steve?

[Doc Alan]

Hi Stevie,

Welcome back to the Forum. I do remember you and Florsel had a Philippines vacation earlier in the year, and like others, missed you here.


Like your friends who have contributed on your thread so far, I fully understand the reason for your absence.


You did the right thing in seeing your doctor. Genuine depression with an obvious cause, as with your bereavement, is serious. It may be called “ reactive “ in your case, as opposed to “ endogenous “ depression with no apparent cause. However, the outlook is good, with the right treatment ( which doesn’t just involve medication ). I’m sure your doctor will have advised you in this. Self help , looking after your general health and communicating ( in your own time ) with loved ones and friends – including here on the Forum – will all speed recovery.


Best wishes to you and Florsel .

[Dedworth]

Good to see you back Stevie but very sorry to hear of your news.

Time does heal - There's nothing I can add further just to say I second and echo the wishes, comments and sentiments of the members who've posted here.

[Ako Si Jamie]

Welcome back Stevie and sorry to hear about your sad news.

[raynaputi]

Welcome back Stevie. I'm so sorry about to learn about the death in your family. I too had 2 deaths in my family in the Philippines this year (grandma died on January and grandad died on August) and I couldn't come home.

Don't worry, time heals all wounds. Hoping you and Florsel will be fine and back to how you used to be in due time.

[stevie c]

Are you back at work now Steve?

Yes started back to work last monday peter
I have visited face book a few times but have mentioned my loss only to very close friends as i dont want it broadcast all over fb as there are some very nasty people on fb

[stevie c]

Hi Stevie,

Welcome back to the Forum. I do remember you and Florsel had a Philippines vacation earlier in the year, and like others, missed you here.


Like your friends who have contributed on your thread so far, I fully understand the reason for your absence.


You did the right thing in seeing your doctor. Genuine depression with an obvious cause, as with your bereavement, is serious. It may be called “ reactive “ in your case, as opposed to “ endogenous “ depression with no apparent cause. However, the outlook is good, with the right treatment ( which doesn’t just involve medication ). I’m sure your doctor will have advised you in this. Self help , looking after your general health and communicating ( in your own time ) with loved ones and friends – including here on the Forum – will all speed recovery.


Best wishes to you and Florsel .

Hi Doc Many thanks for the welcome back...I have been taking medication but I have managed to stop the meds now but I do have regular visits to see a counsellor which has helped great deal I think im just beginning to come to terms with what happened now im can actually talk to people about whereas before I bottled everything up. Once again many thanks Doc its good to be back

[stevie c]

Good to see you back Stevie but very sorry to hear of your news.

Time does heal - There's nothing I can add further just to say I second and echo the wishes, comments and sentiments of the members who've posted here.

Many thanks Ded its good to be back

[stevie c]

Welcome back Stevie and sorry to hear about your sad news.

Many thanks Jamie

[stevie c]

Welcome back Stevie. I'm so sorry about to learn about the death in your family. I too had 2 deaths in my family in the Philippines this year (grandma died on January and grandad died on August) and I couldn't come home.

Don't worry, time heals all wounds. Hoping you and Florsel will be fine and back to how you used to be in due time.

Many thanks Rayna for the lovely message You are right wounds do heal im so sorry to hear of the death in your family & so sorry you couldn't go home me & florsel send our condolances

[cessxy]

Sorry to hear your lost Stevie. My thoughts are with you and your family x

[stevie c]

Sorry to hear your lost Stevie. My thoughts are with you and your family x

Many thanks cessxy

[andy222]

Keep your chin up Stevie you have support on here.

[stevie c]

Keep your chin up Stevie you have support on here.

Many thanks andy....im getting there its taken awhile but im on the right track

[lordna]

Sorry to hear of your loss Steve. Welcome back.

Don't know if it helps but when i lost someone very close to me, i found counselling VERY helpful in getting me back to myself. I was also VERY skeptical at first but it really did help me personally...just thought i should mention it even though my circumstances were probably different.

[gWaPito]

Good to see you back Stevie but very sorry to hear of your news.

Time does heal - There's nothing I can add further just to say I second and echo the wishes, comments and sentiments of the members who've posted here.

Welcome back Steve. ..I was thinking about you and Steve R this afternoon. .wondering where you guys are.

So sorry to read of your lose especially someone so young. ..you have my deepest sympathy

regards
Gwaps

[stevie c]

Sorry to hear of your loss Steve. Welcome back.

Don't know if it helps but when i lost someone very close to me, i found counselling VERY helpful in getting me back to myself. I was also VERY skeptical at first but it really did help me personally...just thought i should mention it even though my circumstances were probably different.

Many thanks lordna i am currently attending counseling sessions which have helped me enormously

[stevie c]

Welcome back Steve. ..I was thinking about you and Steve R this afternoon. .wondering where you guys are.

So sorry to read of your lose especially someone so young. ..you have my deepest sympathy

regards
Gwaps

Many thanks gwap i think because of the young age it hit me so hard but as they say the best always go first

[gWaPito]

Many thanks gwap i think because of the young age it hit me so hard but as they say the best always go first

This is still early days for you Stevie. ..nothing can prepare anyone a lose like yours. ..I lost my Dad when he was 78...He lived a full life. ..at around the same time as my bereavement a manager lost his teenage son in a motorcycle accident. ...It put my lose into perspective. ..so so sorry Stevie. We are here for you ok. ..I'll PM you my mobile. So happy your wife is being a wall of strength for you. ...For what it's worth, you will be in my prayers

[stevie c]

Many thanks mark for your kind words @ offer of support it is much appreciated

[marksroomspain]

Welcome back stevie c just buried a good buddy of mine 3 days ago he was only 24 had cystic fibrosis.

Times like this test us all but glad to see you have support.

[bigmarco]

Welcome back Stevie although like everyone else I'm sad to hear of your sad loss. Glad to see you have sought professional help to deal with your tragedy and may I send my best wishes for the future to you and your family.

[stevie c]

Welcome back stevie c just buried a good buddy of mine 3 days ago he was only 24 had cystic fibrosis.

Times like this test us all but glad to see you have support.

Many thanks mark it certainly is a shock to the system but as you say with good support i will get back to some normality