Hi all

[jhoiz]

I am really upset but I don't plan on being depressed reason why I have to go online to look for someone or people to talk to. Cuz I know that in a forum like this, I'll feel better and I am now so I sincerely thank you all so much.

Didn't fancy telling the whole story but what the heck, here it goes. I'm warning you though, don't be sorry cuz its your fault and I'm a big girl, I'll alright.

I worked in England and I was working with him. Like the usual, we became friends at first then felt love and then got really serious til we decided to live together. He never kept secret from me so I knew from the start that he's got a debt problem. He was skint all the time and I even helped him pay his overdraft. Anyways, after a couple of years I got pregnant. Gave birth in England then we decided to come to the Philippines cuz it is cheaper to live here. We got married here and wanted to settle down here. But we can't find him a good paying job so he decided to work on the cruise ship. I disagree but at that time we didn't have a choice, he's got to work. Everything was ok at first til he went on vacation. It was our wedding anniversary. He got drunk then confessed. He said he was sorry and asked me not to leave him. Then you know what happened next. I am not stupid and it's sad cuz I gave up a lot for him. But life goes on and I need to be strong our daughter.

[jhoiz]

Didn't fancy telling the whole story but what the heck, here it goes. I'm warning you though, don't be sorry cuz its your fault and I'm a big girl, I'll alright.

I meant to say: It's NOT your fault and I'm a big girl, I will be alright...

[silver13]

You both need serious talking, maybe give him another chance? if things get worse then there are still plenty of good and available men out there or here as the admin said, they didn't care the hassle.

[kentish]

It was our wedding anniversary. He got drunk then confessed. He said he was sorry and asked me not to leave him. Then you know what happened next. I am not stupid and it's sad cuz I gave up a lot for him. But life goes on and I need to be strong our daughter.

Hello jhoiz, welcome to the forum.

Kick that guys' backside, and concentrate with your daughter. I'm sure you have families around you who can help you.
If I was in your shoes I would be soooooooooooooooo grateful that he has admitted what he has done so I can get on with my life.
Don't waste your time with him, you have a child to care for.

[jhoiz]

Hello jhoiz, welcome to the forum.

Kick that guys' backside, and concentrate with your daughter. I'm sure you have families around you who can help you.
If I was in your shoes I would be soooooooooooooooo grateful that he has admitted what he has done so I can get on with my life.
Don't waste your time with him, you have a child to care for.

Thanks kentish for the welcome. I didn't marry him for money or visa. What I felt and feel for him is real and strong that's why I'm hurting...Right now I am at the stage where I am putting a lot of things into consideration..and all your comments here is helping me.

[aromulus]

Thanks kentish for the welcome. I didn't marry him for money or visa. What I felt and feel for him is real and strong that's why I'm hurting...Right now I am at the stage where I am putting a lot of things into consideration..and all your comments here is helping me.

I would tell him to face his responsabilities back home.

To leave the cruise ship, return to England with you and the baby, find a job, pay his debts, and re-start from scratch.

Having worked on cruise ships for a number of years I know only too well about the temptations and the risks involved.
But also I know about the loneliness, the hard work, the cheap drink and the peer pressure. Not an easy life.

Keith is right, if he cheated once, he will most probably do it again, unless you are together. Hence my suggestion for the both of you to return to the Uk.

[jhoiz]

Hence my suggestion for the both of you to return to the Uk

Problem is a bit more complicated than what it already is if we decide to go back to England because my visa was 4 months expired when I left UK. I'm not sure if I'll be able to go back to UK anymore actually but I'm not bothered for as long as my daughter have what she deserves.