Yes, I can also see the red flags.
I would give her some more rope... But no money until things are clearer.
If she was coping alright before you came on the scene, stopping the 5k for a while ain't going to make much difference, or any at all.
Let her do the running and try to contact you at times.
I did leave a pc and all paraphernalia with my wife, on my second trip there, and also got her on broadband. But I was 100% sure of her love for me, and her family respect.
Welcome on board mate.
Long distance relationships are never easy, but here on this, and Peter's site you will find lots of info that might help you cope.
good luck
