Ady
also, i just want to say this ...
if u do want to continue in this relationship and you must continue on . . . then mate... make sure you talk a LOT with joebloggs here. He is not only someone who has been thru a lot of stuff who can help u with advice and stuff like that . . . he is also a really really good guy, a diamond geezer who can be a good friend for u . . .
i know coz he's helped me!
so that's another recommendation for u ady
oh and it's a "big-up" for Joe
tom