Hi! Would just like to ask some questions...

[Rosie1958]

Hi Applemisada, welcome to the forum.

In my opinion, I think that you could be playing with fire and could also be putting yourself at risk. Three months of on-line chat may seem like a life time to you if you are eager to take things to the next level, but your boyfriend may not have the same desire and a surprise visit might be the last thing he wants (particularly if he is already married or in a relationship, it happens!). There are parts of Essex that are very rough (some nice parts too) and I certainly would not consider putting my wellbeing and safety at risk for any man, particularly for one that didn't invite me to be there.

As for proving that you love him, you don't say why you feel this is necessary? Why not suggest that he goes to Paranaque to meet you first of all. It would be far easier for him to enter Philippines and he would also have a choice about whether he goes or not. You could then make your mind up about each other once you have met.

Good luck
Rosie

[tiger31]

Hi Applemisada, welcome to the forum.

In my opinion, I think that you could be playing with fire and could also be putting yourself at risk. Three months of on-line chat may seem like a life time to you if you are eager to take things to the next level, but your boyfriend may not have the same desire and a surprise visit might be the last thing he wants (particularly if he is already married or in a relationship, it happens!). There are parts of Essex that are very rough (some nice parts too) and I certainly would not consider putting my wellbeing and safety at risk for any man, particularly for one that didn't invite me to be there.

As for proving that you love him, you don't say why you feel this is necessary? Why not suggest that he goes to Paranaque to meet you first of all. It would be far easier for him to enter Philippines and he would also have a choice about whether he goes or not. You could then make your mind up about each other once you have met.

Good luck
Rosie

you should be a side kick for dear D in the sun Rosie you,re spot on. I hope he,s got an explanation ready for his wife/girlfriend lol. Never trust an essex boy lol

[Michael Parnham]

Hi Applemisada, welcome to the forum.

In my opinion, I think that you could be playing with fire and could also be putting yourself at risk. Three months of on-line chat may seem like a life time to you if you are eager to take things to the next level, but your boyfriend may not have the same desire and a surprise visit might be the last thing he wants (particularly if he is already married or in a relationship, it happens!). There are parts of Essex that are very rough (some nice parts too) and I certainly would not consider putting my wellbeing and safety at risk for any man, particularly for one that didn't invite me to be there.

As for proving that you love him, you don't say why you feel this is necessary? Why not suggest that he goes to Paranaque to meet you first of all. It would be far easier for him to enter Philippines and he would also have a choice about whether he goes or not. You could then make your mind up about each other once you have met.

Good luck
Rosie

Well said!

[AppleMisada]

Hi Applemisada, welcome to the forum.

In my opinion, I think that you could be playing with fire and could also be putting yourself at risk. Three months of on-line chat may seem like a life time to you if you are eager to take things to the next level, but your boyfriend may not have the same desire and a surprise visit might be the last thing he wants (particularly if he is already married or in a relationship, it happens!). There are parts of Essex that are very rough (some nice parts too) and I certainly would not consider putting my wellbeing and safety at risk for any man, particularly for one that didn't invite me to be there.

As for proving that you love him, you don't say why you feel this is necessary? Why not suggest that he goes to Paranaque to meet you first of all. It would be far easier for him to enter Philippines and he would also have a choice about whether he goes or not. You could then make your mind up about each other once you have met.

Good luck
Rosie

hi Rosie

Many thanks for your advice. Yes, I thought about that before but he's worth the risk... the town where he lives (according to google) seems like a friendly place.

I could not think of other means to prove I love him other than taking all risks to be with him.

I want to invite him here and I think he's just waiting for an invite. But I don't know how to properly invite him...

[Michael Parnham]

hi Rosie

Many thanks for your advice. Yes, I thought about that before but he's worth the risk... the town where he lives (according to google) seems like a friendly place.

I could not think of other means to prove I love him other than taking all risks to be with him.

I want to invite him here and I think he's just waiting for an invite. But I don't know how to properly invite him...

Just ask him if the thought has crossed his mind to visit you in the Philippines, this will open up the conversation on what his plan is regarding wanting to meet you. In the meantime ask many questions about him and find out as much as you can, you never know there may be many things that he want's to tell you about himself especially if he is serious about having a relationship with you, also at the same time tread very carefully and give it a few more months to allow your real feelings for each other to surface. Good luck Apple!

[AppleMisada]

thank you michael! i'll keep that in mind.

thank you to everyone too for the goodlucks

[raynaputi]

Hi Applemisada, welcome to the forum.

In my opinion, I think that you could be playing with fire and could also be putting yourself at risk. Three months of on-line chat may seem like a life time to you if you are eager to take things to the next level, but your boyfriend may not have the same desire and a surprise visit might be the last thing he wants (particularly if he is already married or in a relationship, it happens!). There are parts of Essex that are very rough (some nice parts too) and I certainly would not consider putting my wellbeing and safety at risk for any man, particularly for one that didn't invite me to be there.

As for proving that you love him, you don't say why you feel this is necessary? Why not suggest that he goes to Paranaque to meet you first of all. It would be far easier for him to enter Philippines and he would also have a choice about whether he goes or not. You could then make your mind up about each other once you have met.

Good luck
Rosie

You exactly said what I was thinking!