Committing while head and heart pulled all over the place! Long story...

[gWaPito]

Thanks for the replies guys. (I did try earlier but mobile signal dropped just at wrong time)…..
Guess I've been going round in circles for a long time, wondering if a lot of the problems were down to her reaction to her stresses and highly sensitive nature (and me not understanding that)... Or that, in fact, it's always been a bit of a toxic relationship...
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Just out of curiosity Hache. .have you asked her about previous relationships and how they panned out ?....if your answer turns out to be something like, 'they were all tossers' then that answer's your question

I know I was my wife's only long term partner

It certainly answered my question

BTW. ...' toxic relationship' ...I shall put that in my cupboard for another day ...Worth a rep

[HACHE]

Just out of curiosity Hache. .have you asked her about previous relationships and how they panned out ?....if your answer turns out to be something like, 'they were all tossers' then that answer's your question

I know I was my wife's only long term partner

It certainly answered my question

BTW. ...' toxic relationship' ...I shall put that in my cupboard for another day ...Worth a rep

She got pregnant at 15. and reluctantly married a few years later after pressure from the father's family.

Wasn't a good relationship at all, and she went off to work in Japan and had a boyfriend of 2 or 3 years there...she overstayed and then came home when found out.

She has always spoken fondly of her Japanese relationship (and her time in japan).

[Michael Parnham]

She got pregnant at 15. and reluctantly married a few years later after pressure from the father's family.

Wasn't a good relationship at all, and she went off to work in Japan and had a boyfriend of 2 or 3 years there...she overstayed and then came home when found out.

She has always spoken fondly of her Japanese relationship (and her time in japan).

One should never talk or mention past relationships Hache, I think it leaves an imprint in one's mind and it's always hovering around inside you for ever. One of the first things I dealt with in our relationship was never to mention past relationships as it can destroy your whole future together. Hope you can move forward and good luck for the future, keep us posted!

[HACHE]

One should never talk or mention past relationships Hache, I think it leaves an imprint in one's mind and it's always hovering around inside you for ever. One of the first things I dealt with in our relationship was never to mention past relationships as it can destroy your whole future together. Hope you can move forward and good luck for the future, keep us posted!

I agree in the early stages, it's usually a big no no to mention any exes/ previous relationships. It usually means they're thinking of them and looking back (because feelings still there and not moved on) when they should be getting to know their new partner and looking ahead.

We never had long chats about our exes, just a few times they briefly came up in conversation. Only impression I ever got was that it was a happy time in her life that she enjoyed, loving Japan, and had an easy happy relationship. Never for a minute did I think anything more than that....