Do all filipina's brought to uk act like this??

[grahamw48]

Very true.

[grahamw48]

I really don't want to comment on this thread, where to be honest, we have very limited information from only one of the partners...not that I'm doubting his word.

What we could all do to think about though, for those who are in the early stages of their relationships, is the importance of taking the time to really get to KNOW your partner, and for each to examine the motivations of the other in the cold light of day.

Being in love/lust with (especially based on one or two brief holidays together), and bringing your lady here does not mean all will be sweetness and light.

[bigmac]

i just wonder what she would do if he gave her the sack. where was the child born ?

if they split--and the child is a UK subject--what chance of dad getting custody ?

i still think the OP holds the whip hand--if he has the bottle.

[gWaPito]

i just wonder what she would do if he gave her the sack. where was the child born ?

if they split--and the child is a UK subject--what chance of dad getting custody ?

i still think the OP holds the whip hand--if he has the bottle.

She came here 2010. ...if ILRs aren't being dished out until after 5yrs

I think she'd be granted coz of their son but, I remember a Philippine nurse in Swindon who gave birth and died. ..the filipino husband had to go back the the Philippines even though their child was born a British Citizen. That was around 2006.

If it were me, I'd put up with her nonsense purely for the child and hope above hope Karma runs her down. I'm in a similar situation so it's all fresh this stuff for me.

[Takenoprisoners]

Thanks for all you replies, Of course there are always two sides to every story.... but her's is the same as mine.... No point in me lying.... She was deprived of most things as a kid, never even had a doll, no electric till she was 8yrs old..lived in the hills with her large family... anyway thanks again

[gWaPito]

Thanks for all you replies, Of course there are always two sides to every story.... but her's is the same as mine.... No point in me lying.... She was deprived of most things as a kid, never even had a doll, no electric till she was 8yrs old..lived in the hills with her large family... anyway thanks again

You have my thoughts and sympathy mate. It's a choker. ..mine had a similar upbringing. ...too many siblings, not enough food. It's doesn't give them the right to ride roughshod over all and sundry....especially to the likes of us who's took them out of that dire situation. I will add. .my wife got a sister. .she's solid gold. .an absolute diamond. All becoz someone's come from an impoverished background doesn't mean they are going to be your worst nightmare.

I won't be taking that chance again though.

[Moy]

won't be taking that chance again though.

thought we are heading there my luvs

[gWaPito]

thought we are heading there my luvs

We are. ..aren't we? I was on about someone from the same neck of the woods.

[Moy]

We are. ..aren't we? I was on about someone from the same neck of the woods.

but just remember Relationships are stronger when you're best friends first, and a couple second.

[Moy]

Thanks for all you replies, Of course there are always two sides to every story.... but her's is the same as mine.... No point in me lying.... She was deprived of most things as a kid, never even had a doll, no electric till she was 8yrs old..lived in the hills with her large family... anyway thanks again

just think.. There is no gain without pain and no glory without a story. Nothing good comes easy, just keep your eye on the brighter picture and forget the negatives.

[grahamw48]

just think.. There is no gain without pain and no glory without a story. Nothing good comes easy, just keep your eye on the brighter picture and forget the negatives.

...and hide yer wallet !

[Moy]

...and hide yer wallet !

[gWaPito]

just think.. There is no gain without pain and no glory without a story. Nothing good comes easy, just keep your eye on the brighter picture and forget the negatives.

Wise words Moy....as the song goes, always look on the bright side of life. ...never mind the fact she's trying to get him to take out more life cover on top of 2 existing policies I for sure would be sleeping with one eye open and a blade in my right hand. ..just in case

Always be prepared. ..that's my advice

[Moy]

Wise words Moy....as the song goes, always look on the bright side of life. ...never mind the fact she's trying to get him to take out more life cover on top of 2 existing policies I for sure would be sleeping with one eye open and a blade in my right hand. ..just in case

Always be prepared. ..that's my advice

very simple my friend just always think Don't make someone your everything. If they leave, you'll have nothing.

[gWaPito]

very simple my friend just always think Don't make someone your everything. If they leave, you'll have nothing.

Surely that's what marriage is about . .you give everything. .your heart your soul. Well it is where I was brought up

[Jentobeharrison]

Thanks for all you replies, Of course there are always two sides to every story.... but her's is the same as mine.... No point in me lying.... She was deprived of most things as a kid, never even had a doll, no electric till she was 8yrs old..lived in the hills with her large family... anyway thanks again

I don't really want to offend any body here but what I can advise especially to those foreign men who are looking for love, I am not pertaining just to filipinas but for any women. If I were a man and seeking for a woman, these will be the common red flags for me:

If a woman starts talking about:

Poverty in her country
Poverty in her family
family problems
how hard to earn money

Anything about financial. I am not saying that you should leave your prospected contact but take time to know her MORE. Investigate, it is very easy to investigate about someone nowadays, and actually I believe that you will really feel if your contact is making up stories and just trying to fool you. One just have to be aware, and be cautious, it won't harm you. better be a hard to get than to have regrets

[sentinent]

I don't really want to offend any body here but what I can advise especially to those foreign men who are looking for love, I am not pertaining just to filipinas but for any women. If I were a man and seeking for a woman, these will be the common red flags for me:

If a woman starts talking about:

Poverty in her country
Poverty in her family
family problems
how hard to earn money

Anything about financial. I am not saying that you should leave your prospected contact but take time to know her MORE. Investigate, it is very easy to investigate about someone nowadays, and actually I believe that you will really feel if your contact is making up stories and just trying to fool you. One just have to be aware, and be cautious, it won't harm you. better be a hard to get than to have regrets

A wise post. The difficulty with many men is that when a pretty woman walks in the front door their common sense leaves by the back door. There are FAR more gold-diggers about than anyone gives credit for. If there is a large age gap in a relationship that should be an immediate red flag. Guys should be asking "what does this woman really see in me?" I know it is hurtful to face reality sometimes but the painful truth is that she is seeing past your age and looks and is simply eyeing up your wallet and other assets. There is no such fool as an old fool. Have a good day.

[bigmac]

A wise post. The difficulty with many men is that when a pretty woman walks in the front door their common sense leaves by the back door. There are FAR more gold-diggers about than anyone gives credit for. If there is a large age gap in a relationship that should be an immediate red flag. Guys should be asking "what does this woman really see in me?" I know it is hurtful to face reality sometimes but the painful truth is that she is seeing past your age and looks and is simply eyeing up your wallet and other assets. There is no such fool as an old fool. Have a good day.

very fair comment.

i'm 23 years older than mine. she told me very early on at the start of the relationship she was looking for a UK husband--so she could settle here ( she was here on a student visa at the time ). --i ran a thread on here about it when i first joined. comments about "marriage of convenience " were uttered.---but--arent they all--?

but that was nearly 2 & 1/2 years ago now. we were then apart nearly a year. i am helping her out financially--but its what we agreed and didnt set alarm bells ringing.--or break the bank.

the way i look at it--under the new regs she will have to put up with me for 5 years once she gets in with a fiancee visa.--hopefully later this year.

only then will we know for certain. i think its a risk worth taking. shes in a different league to any UK women ive ever met.

[gWaPito]

A wise post. The difficulty with many men is that when a pretty woman walks in the front door their common sense leaves by the back door. There are FAR more gold-diggers about than anyone gives credit for. If there is a large age gap in a relationship that should be an immediate red flag. Guys should be asking "what does this woman really see in me?" I know it is hurtful to face reality sometimes but the painful truth is that she is seeing past your age and looks and is simply eyeing up your wallet and other assets. There is no such fool as an old fool. Have a good day.

Again as some will say, there's no data for this but it doesn't take a genius to work out why a guy gets thousands of emails and interests from the likes of the third world dating sites and only a small fraction of that amount on our home grown sites like match and what have you.
You just gotta have your eyes wide open to find the genuine.

No offence to anyone here xx

[sentinent]

Again as some will say, there's no data for this but it doesn't take a genius to work out why a guy gets thousands of emails and interests on the likes of the third world country dating sites and a small fraction of that amount on our home grown sites like match and what have you.
You just gotta have your eyes wide open to find the genuine.

No offence to anyone here xx

This is a poster who understands the world.

When a young Filipina meets an old western guy then romance becomes a transaction. Anyone who has at least a nodding acquaintance with reality will figure this out. But for those who believe they have found true love? - well there are none so blind as those who do not wish to see. Have a good day.

[malditako]

Thanks for all you replies, Of course there are always two sides to every story.... but her's is the same as mine.... No point in me lying.... She was deprived of most things as a kid, never even had a doll, no electric till she was 8yrs old..lived in the hills with her large family... anyway thanks again

You know exactly where she is coming from...why she wants this and that. She wants to fill that part of her life from when she was a kid.

It's common to a person - regardless of race - to want the things they've never had or experienced.

[gWaPito]

You know exactly where she is coming from...why she wants this and that. She wants to fill that part of her life from when she was a kid.

It's common to a person - regardless of race - to want the things they never had or experienced.

And to hell with the man who took her from that hellhole ...sounds fair to me malditako.

[malditako]

And to hell with the man who took her from that hellhole ...sounds fair to me malditako.

what makes you say that it's a hellhole where she came from...you can never be sure

[gWaPito]

what makes you say that it's a hellhole where she came from...you can never be sure

It couldn't have been that clever. .otherwise she wouldn't be raping and pillaging (metaphorically speaking) her husband's assets. ....if you get my drift

[grahamw48]

'Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all'.

[grahamw48]

Me and my ex lived happily for 22 years....then we met.

[grahamw48]

Perhaps it would also be wise for Filipinas to be as careful when choosing their prospective life partner.

Most seem to make very little effort in investigating the man's life...past and present, or the true facts about his country and culture.

[gWaPito]

Perhaps it would also be wise for Filipinas to be as careful when choosing their prospective life partner.

Most seem to make very little effort in investigating the man's life...past and present, or the true facts about his country and culture.

So true. .why is the onus on the guy to adapt to their culture when it's they who are wanting to live in ours.

Good point Graham . .not enough said about this.

[malditako]

Perhaps it would also be wise for Filipinas to be as careful when choosing their prospective life partner.

Most seem to make very little effort in investigating the man's life...past and present, or the true facts about his country and culture.

Why investigate when they see clearly what they want from you

[grahamw48]

Why investigate when they see clearly what they want from you

What would that be, do you think ?