ing aside though, Brian ... the difference in ages between Rayna and Keith is the same as it is with Myrna and I.
Having taught Agriculture to 4th Year Agronomy students at Panabo National High School in Davao del Norte Province, Mindanao for nearly quarter of a century - latterly as a Grade 3 (Senior) Teacher - Myrna held down a good, secure, very well-paid job for life had she chosen to remain there until retirement.
Instead - again, like Rayna - she gave up all the "trappings" that surely would've guaranteed her a lucrative future ... in order to marry the man she D ... an ... a retired Local Government clerk with ... well ... ... to be honest ... ... precious little to offer financially and emigrated to a strange land on the far side of the world.
But she's HAPPY ... I'm HAPPY ... AND, I'll wager, Keith, Rayna - and many, many Fil~Brit couples besides - are ALL perfectly HAPPY too, in spite of what the saddos who would have you believe otherwise, might insist!
Btw ... I'm not getting at you, (I know you and your girlfriend are both blissfully content also! ) nor, indeed, anyone in particular ... I'm just responding to your !
I agree with that, in fact my fiancé also taught me not to care about what other people say. Whenever we walk here in the Philippines, I was very conscious and shy when we first met, not really to him but to the people who have been staring us. And MIGHT be thinking that I am a slag, lol. (Good thing I don't wear sexy clothes) so there, now I don't really care about what other people say, I don't mind. That's the good thing about British people
lol Don,t worry i,m thick skinned. The sad thing is age difference can be a problem for some couples - others not so - everyone to their own.
People tend to stare at people who don,t seem normal - it,s human nature, it's how you react to it is the key. It,s of no one,s business how you go about your life, you only have one life, so live it your way.
Both my previous long term partners were older than me, so I done a swap this time and loving every minute of it hahaha. I did tell her that i,m worth more to her alive than dead hahahaha, just to put my mind at rest.
A few members have jumped on the bandwagon and said get rid. Well, i,m afraid i,m in that camp also. In my opinion, a leopard never changes its spots, so hanging on and prolonging the agony is just a waste of time. You should never stay together for the sake of the kids in my view.
The only thing that went wrong here, was the fact that he did,nt suss her out before he married her and that might have saved all this aggro that,s going on now.
We all get married hoping its for life and sickness n health and all that, but the sad reality shows up in the statistics that there is a very high possibility that it will end in tears.
But, I will say this about our lovely fillipinas, I do wish I had married one decades ago that,s for sure. At least this one tells me she loves me many times a day
Most Asian/ white western married couples are happy Arthur. .the stats prove that without doubt.
The British/ British are only half happy. .like Mark said, 50% of those marriages go to the wall.
I don't think it's fair to call the realists saddos. No harm in pointing out the possible pitfalls if you happen to marry a duffer.
No one is writing off the Filipinas. .far from it ...you just have to choose wisely, especially like most of us who's done their selecting on dating sites.
Most haven't got a problem their wives sending home their own hard earned money. ...very admirable
I wonder if they're think the same when they have to work into their retirement, possibly until they drop 'cause you've been the soul captain and deckhand keeping the ship afloat
Just a thought
As long as I'm not starving (fridge and cupboard is overflowing actually) and have a roof on top of me, plus a little bit of luxury sometimes (dining out, holiday, gadgets, heating in the house is 20C above the whole year, etc.)
do you live in the real world--??? thousands of families in this country can only dream of such luxuries
Hahaha..I think if other people will have an argument/debate with Keith, they will be the first one to surrender. Keith really doesn't give a S*** what others think of him. You will not know if what he's saying is to just annoy you or if he actually means it. If someone winds him up, expect the other person would get wind up in the end. He's worse than a drunk person! I'm actually surprised I've managed to stay sane being with him 24/7 for more than 2 years!
Okay end with being off topic.
-=rayna.keith=-
...When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible...
So do we have to starve to be in the real world? Do we have to get cold to be in the real world? Do we have to not have any house to live in to be in the real world. What we have is what we call our priorities (food, house, clothes, heating) so we put our money on that. We live in the real world. We don't spend on things we will never need. We don't drink and smoke either so no money wasted on such habits. The only holiday we had for two and a half years that I've been here in the UK is our holiday in the Philippines last November. I think if you plan things accordingly with the money you have, then you can have luxuries that you want, which what we are doing.
-=rayna.keith=-
...When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible...
Hi takenoprisoners! Sorry about your plight. I can only advise you to sit with your wife and discuss about her unpleasant attitude. She probably needs a reality check and look back where she came from. If she wants more, she better be working harder shouldn't she? Don't lose faith, give her chance and, if it doesn't work, get rid of her.
About your question, No not at all. I guess it depends on someone's upbringing. Either way, I wish you and your wife can sort things out for the sake of your child. Hugs!
You cannot help who you fall in love with, just make every day the best it can be. Who knows when it may end
You've misinterpreted what bigmac meant
The luxuries you are talking about are not what we had when we were kids. .60s Britain wasn't what it is now. The likes of us have never had it so good.
Neither of my Filipino wives had seen full refrigerators before on a daily basis. .something some on here take for granted.
The Real world is the poverty stricken world. We in the United Kingdom are the lucky ones. The small minority.
Not a day passes when I don't thank my maker for such blessings
I'm just replying to what he replied on my post the way I understand it. Interpreting it more than what I understand about what he wrote just makes things more complicated. I'm not a mind reader so unless he or other posters make it clearer, then how would you expect someone to respond correctly?
-=rayna.keith=-
...When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible...
Thanks Mark. I've just learned from my parents and my grandparents. Trust me, we don't have riches back home, but I've seen how they are when it comes to their marriages. Money is a problem most of the time, but it didn't become a reason for them to fall apart, they are still very sweet to each other up to now. My dad has always been a provider, but when he lost his job at the age of 40+ or so, my mum took the lead. They both managed to give all of us a very good education and a nice life despite all the money problems.
-=rayna.keith=-
...When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible...
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