Thats the problem , we all get tarred with the same brush, until you alone can prove you are a good father,
Many many years ago when the CSA was formed i was i was a absent father according to there letters, but seen my kids everyday and they spent every weekend living with me, but because the then ex had them so she could get benifits i was classed as absent, a orrrible word given to someone who cared and wanted them living with him, hey ho , thats better now