Thanks Rayna and thanks Doc for the rep.

I think you are right Rayna there are so many reasons people can be fat. Unfortunately I was the opposite to your aunt I got fat because I was depressed and turned to food for comfort. The one thing I find hard sometimes is the Filipino attitude of being brutally honest. All my husbands relatives comment on my weight but they don't mean to be offensive they are just stating a fact.

I read Jen's comment before about her fiancé telling her he wasn't attracted to her anymore and I just think that is awful, I would be devastated if my husband ever said anything like that. People need support and encouragement to lose not ridicule or being told they aren't attractive but most importantly they have to want to lose as well.