My fiance asked me if there are racist nicknames that my family and friends call him, I said I dont think they need one because Joe (his real nickname) is already a stereotyped nickname of a white man for filipinos so I never called him Joe again when i told him that, I tried dad but it was awkward as he has a daughter, so babe for normal moods, and Joseph when I am angry. lol
My mum calls my dad "PA", and my dad calls my mum "MA"...
I THINK, we Filipinos just love the idea of using ENDEARMENTS to our partners. Gf and Bf thing in the Philippines has got different endearments such as (Bhe, Boo, Baba which are all short names for Baby; Mhe, Moo, Dhe, Dada which are all short names for mommy and daddy... Even others call their partners strawberries, pears, etc). We find these endearments romantic... We uses these endearments regardless of the age of our partners.
Here in the UK I have found people use endearments (DARLING, LOVE, MY LOVE, HONEY, SWEETHEART, DEAR) such an ordinary thing to call anyone. In the Philippines, using those terms to someone is really awkward. We only use those to someone very special to us like gf/bf/husband/wife.
Have you all notice that we never call our mother, brother, uncle, auntie, brothers, sisters just on their names? We always attach KUYA or ATE to our brothers and sisters names and even to anyone who are older than us...this is how we show respect to them. We never call them by their names alone...
Some years ago we had a couple of priests from Philippines visit us in UK.
They were so confused about being called love, darling sweetheart etc
A couple of times in the supermarket the check-out lady would say something like "OK darlin thankyou see you later" at first they really thought she wanted to meet up with them later...
My now ex called me hun, honey or honey bunch.
My baby calls me "Babe" I love that term of endearment and would never want it to change.... I refer to her as "Darl or Princess" its just stuck with us for over 2 years....
My ex always called me dad too.
I think it was just to differentiate me from the kids, when issuing orders or rebukes, which was sometimes difficult.
My wife always calls me mahal
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This is a hard ask Nick. My wife has a cousin that would love to chat and get to know a guy from the UK. She is a real genuine girl, very honest and down to earth, 35 years old and has a fantastic body shape, pretty face and is working as a teacher in Manila, sound perfect I know but........ I know this girl very well as I see her often when my wife and I are over there. I do not know how I could recommend anyone for her as I would feel very guilt-ridden if she was hurt by someone that I introduced to her. I do not know what others might do in this situation but I cannot put any guy forward for her.
All I can say is, just keep looking and chatting with girls and when it feels right make a bold decision and fly out there. Yes, it costs money and it might not work out - but, if you are really wanting to find one, you will have to take the chance.
Fair comment Rory.
The problem with that is, if they don't hit it off it's a bit awkward.
Happened to me on here. I sort of got introduced to someone but did not feel a match. Then you feel awkward about ět so best just not do it here.
One term of endearment used on this forum that I've taken a while to get used to is "my mahal". When I first joined the forum, I didn't know how to respond to posts about "my mahal". Was I supposed to refer to the woman as "your mahal" then? Mahal literally means dear, as in "that handbag is dear" (mahal yang handbag) or "you're dear to me" (mahal kita). It felt weird to be talking about "your dear". Haha! I eventually just decided to find other ways to refer to the wives in the posts.
It took me ages to get past the way people here call others by their first names, no matter the age difference. In the area where I lived in the US, younger people called older people Ms. <first name> or Mr. <first name>. They also used ma'am or sir when talking to elders, kinda like the way we use po and opo.
Thanks for all those comments especially to Rory giving a description of this girl.
Having gotten to "know" Nick - as well as it's possible for anyone to form an impression about someone else through regular written contact over several years - Rory ... I believe I'm in a position to confidently vouch for the fact that here is a decent, Christian bloke who, in my humble - but honest - opinion, would be the very last person to treat the "finer feelings" of a nice lady like your wife's cousin with anything other than the greatest respect.
Could be worse.
She could have been fixed up with me...or Les...or Dedworth.
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