Some visa help

[Cheshire Cheez]

Absolutely hilarious posts from our Filipinas, thank you so much for the laugh Ladies, I agree with most of what has been said, well done to you all!

Cheez …….. I am a well travelled British female and consider myself to be quite worldly. I know exactly what goes on in the Ladyboy capital of Pattaya and of the sex tourism that Angeles City in Philippines is renouned for. I have been to girlie bars and seen for myself what you guys get up to. Indeed, seeing the hundreds of European males running in and out of the “gentleman” bars in Makati such as The Ivory Club, Pussycat, etc . , thinking that they are the best thing since sliced bread and looking eagerly for their next lay, made my partner and I want to throw up. Each to their own as you put it but looking for favours from prostitute bar girls (and boys) in my opinion is the lowest demeaning act and says something about the class and character of a man who is supposed to be in a "loving" relationship.

There are many men in this world who, for one reason or another, are not capable of having a fully committed relationship and who in my opinion would benefit from counselling. In our society it is the norm to only have one partner and the majority celebrate being a monogamous nation. We all have different values, being open and honest in a relationship is very high on my own agenda, as is loyalty and trust. In my opinion, if the relationship that you have with your fiancée is based only on what you want her to know, it is doomed to fail as she will eventually find out if you have anything to hide or are up to no good.

Here in the UK, women don’t generally accept unfaithfulness on any level. If you play with fire, expect to have your fingers burnt big time as a woman scorned will always eventually get her own back, mark my words. I do realise that your fiancé is of course Filipina but she will learn from others here in the UK.

Sorry but I do find your whole attitude towards your relationships rather immature and self centered, especially the lack of truth and your need to regularly escape with your male friends to the above places, ignoring the affect that your behaviour will have on your fiancee. Personally, from what you have said, I don’t think that you are ready to sufficiently commit yourself to the relationship that your fiancée will need and expect as your wife. I suggest that you look at your behaviours and the wider longer term picture for everyone close to you ...........

Thank you for a detailed response Rosie.

However, although I can clearly read that you disagree with my lifestyle, you're simply articulating an artificial belief in the reality of monogamy.

There is not one man who has written on this thread who at one point or another indulge in some free internet pornography. And that is an indictment into the fact that those men are forcibly living their lives under a regime forced upon them, that is completely unnatural to all of their being.

Whilst boys might grow up with the doctrine of Christianity and consider monogamy to be a moral thing, deep within their being they feel the conflict of their nature versus what they've been told all their lives.

I simply choose to free myself from these doctrinal rules imposed by religious leaders and women keen to maintain the status quo.

The truth is, I was glad when my ex cheated on me. It allowed me the opportunity to leave what was a terrible relationship. I had long had a few online friendships with ladies in the Philippines, but only took it to the next step after I was a free man again. Lek (my ex) was trying to control me like all women control their men, but I needed to be free. And so I allowed an online relationship to blossom and when Lek helped end our relationship I had in effect moved on already.

[Rosie1958]

Thank you for a detailed response Rosie.

However, although I can clearly read that you disagree with my lifestyle, you're simply articulating an artificial belief in the reality of monogamy.

There is not one man who has written on this thread who at one point or another indulge in some free internet pornography. And that is an indictment into the fact that those men are forcibly living their lives under a regime forced upon them, that is completely unnatural to all of their being.

Whilst boys might grow up with the doctrine of Christianity and consider monogamy to be a moral thing, deep within their being they feel the conflict of their nature versus what they've been told all their lives.

I simply choose to free myself from these doctrinal rules imposed by religious leaders and women keen to maintain the status quo.

The truth is, I was glad when my ex cheated on me. It allowed me the opportunity to leave what was a terrible relationship. I had long had a few online friendships with ladies in the Philippines, but only took it to the next step after I was a free man again. Lek (my ex) was trying to control me like all women control their men, but I needed to be free. And so I allowed an online relationship to blossom and when Lek helped end our relationship I had in effect moved on already.

Cheez, looking at porn pictures on the internet is a bit different to visiting girlie bars. I am sorry to hear that you were in a terrible relationship and it sounds like leaving it was probably best for all concerned but you don't appear to have come out of it unscathed. The concerns that have been expressed are for your fiancée, and from what you say, I think that you still have emotional issues that need to be addressed if you want your relationship and marriage to last .......Just the opinion of an outsider

[fred]

Cheez, looking at porn pictures on the internet is a bit different to visiting girlie bars. I am sorry to hear that you were in a terrible relationship and it sounds like leaving it was probably best for all concerned but you don't appear to have come out of it unscathed. The concerns that have been expressed are for your fiancée, and from what you say, I think that you still have emotional issues that need to be addressed if you want your relationship and marriage to last .......Just the opinion of an outsider

Words of wisdom!