Princess Dhang

I can sympathise with you, in that with the benefit of hindsight, you are now regretting making your rather impromptu comments about your dealings with your new found boyfriend.

In restrospect I can now detect that there is an issue of mild embarassment on your part since your original post may have been written whilst you suffered a mild amount of irritation of what seemed at first glance a rather childish response to your off the cuff remark to your BF.

The beauty of this asynchronous bulletin board is that you will receive a wealth of views, some suportive, and on the other side of the coin, some not so supportive.

As Keith quite rightly points out, your initial comments led us all to believe that you were asking for advice about what you should do in the situation as you presented it to the forum.

The Forum can only respond based on the information you supplied, given the narrowness of the facts you placed before us, there is little wonder that some such as myself suggested your BF was acting like a baby, I myself told you in my comment that he had spat out his dummy.

Having since told us that your BF has lost his dear Mother, and there are other factors in his life (If they be true) that have caused him to not be his normal self, then we could all sympathise with his state of mind, and perhaps at this moment in time, he is not disposed towards the extra responsibility of a relationship with you that he has just embarked upon.

My own advice to you, is that at present, it is early days for the both of you, I would hasten to add however, that whilst you could legitamately say that this man is your BF, a very loose term on internet, I assume at present that you have not actually met each other as yet.

If that is the case, then at present what you have is an internet chat friendship, that may lead to a meeting at some point, I hope it does, then you will perhaps gain an insight into what this man is really like, whether the two of you will get along, and if so, will it lead to something more permanent in the future.

There have been numerous cases that I have witnessed, where couples have chatted for nearly two years on internet, and never have they met, I have one personal experience of a Filipina chat freind of mine, who has been chatting to me for 3 years, and as yet I have never met her, she had a British Boyfreind for 2 years, who promised her he would come and visit, he continued to do this for the whole 2 years, he gave one excuse after the other, until finally about a year ago, she gave up on him, and got on with her life.


I relate this story because it illustrates clearly, that until you have met someone and lived with them in close proximity for a reasonable length of time, you don't really know them well enough to make a judgement on them.

Don't get me wrong, I think many of us on this forum can put their hands up and say, "hey it was great when I used to fly out to Manila, and meet my girl in Manila, and then off downtown to Makati and checking into the Shangri la or the Intercon, meals out in Oakwood, and shopping trips to Glorietta, trust me we have all done it, and yes, I am sure we would all agree, the sex was great...(Keith no dirty comments please !)

But when the real life begins, that is back in UK, trudging to work every day trying to etch out a living, and realizing, hey..he leaves his socks on the floor, hey, she cooks that awful smelling fish with vinegar...yuk....yuk...I am passing out with the fumes of her special meal...

Then you know if this is going to last forever ?

As I said Princess Dhang...hahaha its early days yet for you...I wish you well...Let me know how it goes, in about 3 years will you...then we will get a real insight into your relationship.

In the meantime...enjoy the courtship rituals wont you....and the teasers...and being pakipot...its a fun time...

Best of luck with your new BF of 3 weeks.