It's an interesting question Steve...........and one which most folks battle with.Originally Posted by stevewool
I've worked and lived in many different countries and 'the ties' that chiefly bother people the most seem to be missing friends and family.
It always seemed to me that those who found they couldn't settle well, usually lived close to their friends and family in UK and had pretty tight bonds. Moving away from that circle of ties could come as a real shock and was often too much to bear.
Especially as parents or other family members got older or suffer poor health.
In fact I eventually returned from Japan for that very reason of elderly parents with failing health
Getting to grips with a completely new culture and language issues can lead to a perceived, and sometimes strong, loss of a sense of belonging. Those 'intangible' missed little things. A yearning for the familiar. A feeling of always being the outsider looking in. Little things can mean lot.
Food, the weather etc.
Sounds funny in a way, but it's these little things that can grow in the doubtful mind.
I think what I'm getting at Steve is that there are no ties to be cut. Those ties can never be cut. Either you can manage them or you can't.
Some folks just can't.
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